26: Queer Fashion, Wedding Etiquette and a SIL Showdown with Kati Kons

26: Queer Fashion, Wedding Etiquette and a SIL Showdown with Kati Kons

Author: Party Planning by Christa July 17, 2025 Duration: 1:03:56
What happens when a bride’s sister demands the wedding photos be moved — because she’s pregnant? This episode dives into a real-life story filled with family tension, wedding day stress, and boundary crossing. Christa and Kati unpack the drama behind the scenes: from feelings of entitlement to unspoken rivalries and the pressure of making a wedding day perfect for everyone.

If you’ve ever wondered how far you should bend for family or what’s really acceptable at weddings, this episode is for you. Plus, they share honest reflections on friendship, jealousy, and the tricky art of RSVP etiquette.

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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

  • The Photo Location Drama — Should a bride accommodate a pregnant sister’s request to move photo shoots on the wedding day?
  • Family Tension and Silent Rivalry — Exploring possible jealousy and competition between siblings at weddings.
  • When Love Isn’t Transactional — Discussing the expectation of reciprocity in wedding roles and attendance.
  • The Importance of RSVP Etiquette — How a simple “yes” or “no” can save the bride and groom headaches.
  • Photographer vs. Planner Roles — Why having a dedicated wedding planner is crucial to avoid chaos.
  • Pregnancy and Wedding Participation — Respecting health and energy limits without guilt-tripping.
  • Friendship Boundaries Post-Wedding — Navigating hurt feelings when friends can’t attend your big day.
  • Legal Marriage vs. Long-Term Partnerships — When wedding guest lists exclude “non-married” partners, and why that’s problematic.
About Kati:
Kati Kons is a queer wedding fashion stylist based in Washington, D.C. They specialize in helping queer individuals find affirming and non-traditional attire for weddings and other formal events. Kati works with nearlyweds, guests, and vendors, guiding them through the process of finding attire that reflects their personal style and identity. They are known for their inclusive and affirming approach to wedding fashion, particularly for those who may not find themselves represented in traditional wedding attire.

*This conversation is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Please seek a licensed professional for your specific situation.

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Ever feel like you're just one awkward family gathering or bizarre social encounter away from a full-blown story? That's the territory explored in Here Comes the Drama with Christa Innis. Hosted by Christa from Party Planning by Christa, this isn't your standard advice show. Instead, it's a deep and often hilarious dive into the messy, relatable, and downright strange situations that define our interactions with others. Each episode feels like a conversation with a clever friend who’s dissecting the latest spectacle, whether it’s sourced from real life, pop culture, or a memorable guest's personal archives. You’ll hear unfiltered discussions that blur the lines between leisure and social commentary, all delivered with a comedic touch that never shies away from the absurd. The charm of this podcast lies in its ability to find the universal thread in our most specific dramas-from relationship quirks and cultural obsessions to the simple comedy of trying to get through the day without a minor catastrophe. Tune in for a mix of solo reflections and interviews that are less about finding solutions and more about celebrating the glorious, complicated theater of everyday life. It’s the perfect companion for anyone who appreciates a good story and the shared laugh that comes from recognizing a piece of themselves in the chaos.
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