215 – A Bi and Beyond

Bisexual, pansexual, fluid, questioning — or just tired of being told you’re “actually gay” or “basically straight”? In this week’s Hide and Seek, Jon and Craig are joined by CJ and Little Jase for a big, honest, frequently hilarious conversation about what it really means to live Bi+ in queer, kink, health, and dating spaces.

Picking up from Big Bi+ Questions deep dive into Bi+ sexual health, the episode starts with a reality check: Bi+ people consistently have some of the worst sexual-health outcomes, not because of behaviour, but because we’re routinely erased from messaging. From “MSM” labels that don’t fit, to GPs who don’t know what to ask, the panel unpacks how stigma, data gaps, and awkward assumptions shape care — and why regular testing and shame-free conversations still matter.

From there, things get messier (in a good way). We talk kink and pansexual spaces as unexpected sites of belonging, where gender matters less than consent, communication, and what you’re actually there to do. There are stories of inclusive dance floors, not-quite-inclusive venues, and why “gender-inclusive” doesn’t always mean welcoming — especially for women, trans people, and disabled Bi+ folks.

The episode also tackles dating apps and the “double life” problem: blank profiles, safety risks, Bi+-phobia from all directions, and the emotional labour of being someone’s first safe conversation. Add in Pride, parties, tokenism, chosen family, and the ongoing question of “where do we fit?”, and you’ve got a full-spectrum look at Bi+ life beyond the stereotypes.

Funny, sharp, and deeply human, A Bi and Beyond is a reminder that Bi+ people don’t sit in the middle — we exist everywhere.