S7E160: Overcoming Fears and Doubts with Erica Kesilman

S7E160: Overcoming Fears and Doubts with Erica Kesilman

Author: Robyn Robertson July 18, 2023 Duration: 57:55

Overcoming Fears and Doubts

Homeschooling fears got you down? Parenting doubts keeping you paralyzed?

Does the worry and fear wear you down? 

Erica Kesilman joined me on this episode to talk about the fears and doubts we face as homeschoolers and parents and how we can overcome them. 

Erica helps parents grow strong family relationships without yelling, guilt or overwhelm. She utilizes trauma-sensitive, somatic, body-centered therapies for nervous system healing of complex developmental, psychological, neurological, or emotional challenges so you can realize inner security, safety, and optimal health and wellness. She does this through workshops, group programs or one-on-ones. 

She has over 20 years of experience working with families in a wide range of capacities. Erica holds two M.Ed. degrees in Educational Administrations & Leadership, a B.A. in Clinical Psychology with Certifications in Trauma Coaching, Conscious Parenting, Somatic Attachment Therapies, EFT and Breathwork. 

She is a homeschooling mom to 3. 

In This Episode

In this episode Erica shares her own experiences of the fear of imperfections. From the classroom to unschooling wasn't as easy for her as you may think. Just because Erica has the education credentials doesn't mean it was a breeze. She's been working through the demands of perfectionism. Demands that compromised what is most important to her- the integrity of the relationship with her kids.

We talk about:

  • The fear of imperfections and making mistakes and what to do when we were never modelled that for ourselves.
  • How we can begin to go through the repair process with our kids
  • Looking at how our child responds and how you respond when there is challenging behaviour
  • Focusing on the "glimmers"
  • Building in academics by working with the child
  • Creating rhythms or patterns that can build the skills 
  • Inner Resources
  • Soft Structure
  • Conscious Parenting
  • Going from automatic to intentional
  • Self Forgiveness Practice

Resources To Share

If you would like to connect with Erica you can find her at https://ericakesilman.com/

Instagram @erica_kesilman 

Facebook 

Mentioned in the episode

Peter Gray Book- Free To Learn

Listen to my interview with Dr. Peter Gray HERE

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.


Robyn Robertson hosts Honey! I'm Homeschooling The Kids, a conversation that goes far beyond curriculum choices and into the heart of what it means to learn and grow together as a family. This isn't about presenting a perfect blueprint; instead, each episode feels like an honest chat with a friend who gets it, exploring the nuanced realities of choosing an educational path outside the conventional system. You'll hear from a diverse range of voices-experienced homeschoolers, unschooling advocates, educational researchers, and parents just figuring it out-all sharing their stories, challenges, and triumphs. The discussions naturally weave through parenting philosophies, cultural perspectives on childhood, and practical advice for nurturing a rich, engaging home life. Tuning into this podcast means finding a supportive community and thoughtful reflections on creating a family culture that prioritizes connection, curiosity, and joy. It’s for anyone curious about alternative education or simply seeking inspiration for a more intentional and fulfilling life with their kids.
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