Ep. 558 Why Being “Nice” Makes You Invisible to Women

Ep. 558 Why Being “Nice” Makes You Invisible to Women

Author: Cloud10 December 23, 2025 Duration: 33:40
Most men think attraction is built by being polite, respectful, and safe. But that’s exactly why so many women feel nothing, even when the guy checks all the boxes. In this episode, Marni breaks down the biggest misunderstanding men have about attraction with Kurt who is a listener of the podcast. Why logic, effort, and approval seeking quietly kill chemistry before it ever starts. You’ll learn the difference between emotional attraction and emotional safety, why asking permission drains polarity, and how men accidentally skip the flirting phase without realizing it. If you’ve ever heard “You’re a great guy, I just don’t feel the spark,” this episode explains what actually went wrong and how to stop being invisible without becoming arrogant, manipulative, or fake. This is about emotional leadership, polarity, and creating attraction on purpose. >>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ >>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what women actually think about dating, attraction, and communication? How To GET THE GIRL-An Ask Women Podcast cuts through the noise and gets straight to honest conversations. Hosted by Marni Kinrys, who acts as your personal wing girl, alongside banter coach Kristen Carney, this weekly series dismantles the mysteries of modern connection. Instead of relying on tired pick-up lines or manipulative games, the hosts facilitate genuine dialogue. You’ll hear directly from a diverse range of voices-everyday women, celebrities, relationship therapists, and fiercely opinionated individuals-all sharing unfiltered perspectives on what truly builds confidence and fosters meaningful relationships. This isn't about secret tricks; it's about understanding. Each episode from Cloud10 delves into the real questions men have but might be hesitant to ask, covering everything from first-date jitters to deepening intimacy, all framed within the health and sexuality of human interaction. Tune in for a refreshingly straightforward take that replaces guesswork with clarity, making this podcast a unique resource for anyone looking to improve their romantic life through better insight and authentic communication.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

How To GET THE GIRL - An Ask Women Podcast
Podcast Episodes
Ep. 551 Why Happiness = Hotness (w/ Happiness Coach Robert Mack) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:06
We’re throwing it back to one of our most powerful Ask Women episodes — where we explore why being happy isn’t just good for your soul, it’s magnetic. Studies show that the happier you are, the more attractive you become…
Ep. 550 How to Handle Flaky Women - Throwback [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:02:28
We’re throwing it back to the Ask Women days! Comedian Nick Guerra joins Marni and Kristen for a classic “Over Analyze This” episode where we dive into listener letters and answer your biggest dating questions. From how…
Ep. 549 Show Confidence Around Women You LIKE [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 44:19
On this week’s How to Get the Girl, we’re joined by Adam Woolard — husband to Bachelorette star Hannah Brown, VP of Business Development at Joi+Blokes, and a guy who knows firsthand what it’s like to feel intimidated by…
Ep. 548 How to Date When You’re New in Town [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 59:20
Moving to a new city can feel like hitting the reset button—new streets to explore, new friends to make, and a whole new dating scene to figure out. In this throwback episode (originally aired 6.15.16, Ep. 67), Marni and…
Why In-Person Coaching Changes Everything - Bonus Episode! [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 56:43
In this bonus episode of How to Get the Girl, Kristen sits down with Dave Stultz from Limitless Brave to talk about something that can completely shift your dating life: the power of working with a coach in person. We br…
Ep. 546 Porn, Dating, and What Women Really Think (with Dr. Kayte) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:05:13
This episode is anything but a lecture. In fact, we kick things off with a totally candid 10-minute conversation between me, Kristen, and our guest Dr. Kayte about our own porn patterns - genres, likes, dislikes - provin…
Ep. 545 Freshly Divorced and Dating Like a Pro [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 54:55
Dating at 49 isn’t about playing games — it’s about knowing who you are, what you want, and not being afraid to say it out loud. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Rachel Birch, host of the award-wi…
Ep. 544 The Smart Penis Ring & The Future of Men’s Sexual Health [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:39
When it comes to men’s health, your penis might be saying more than you think. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, innovator, and creator of the world’s first smart pen…
Ep. 543 Building Connection and Chemistry Through Communication [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 58:46
Communication is the foundation of every great relationship, but for so many people, it’s also the biggest struggle. In this episode, we’re joined by Suzanne Tabachnick, founder of Social Foundations, a supportive commun…