What I like about Denmark

What I like about Denmark

Author: Kay Xander Mellish June 28, 2014 Duration: 5:03

I got an email a couple of weeks ago at howtoliveindenmark.com from a Danish woman who now lives in Germany.  She says that this podcast helps her keep in touch with life back home, but that she doesn't really like it.  She writes: "I have to tell you, that almost every story has a negative ring to it when you portray your thoughts on Denmark and Danes. I cannot shake the feeling, that you really deep down, do not like Danes or Denmark. I find this sad, as you have been living there now over a decade."

Lady – I won't say your name on the air – but you're full of baloney.  Of course I like Denmark.  Otherwise I wouldn't be here.  I do have a pretty nice country to go back to.  

I like living in Denmark, for a lot of different reasons.

One of them is that people here have a lot of time to spend with their children.  There's a cliché in the U.S. business world of the CEO who quits because 'I want to spend more time with my family'.  That always means he's been fired.  But in Denmark, people really do want to spend a lot of time with the people they care about.  I think that's one reason why a lot of people here are not very ambitious – because getting ahead means working a lot of hours, and they want their free time.

The pace of life in Denmark is much slower than it is in the US, or the UK.  There's much less competitiveness, which can be a good and a bad thing. There's never a feeling of fighting to get through the day.  Before I lived in Copenhagen, I lived in Manhattan, and there, everybody wanted your job, everybody wanted your apartment, everybody wanted your boyfriend, everybody wanted your seat at the restaurant – everybody wanted everything you had, all the time.  Denmark is much more relaxing.  And people have much less stuff here.  The taxes are so high that you can't buy a lot of stuff. People don't go shopping just for fun. So people have fewer things, but better things.  That means less clutter, and less stuff to clean, which is always a positive in my book.

Other things I like about Denmark. I like the biking culture, and the mass transport culture.  I do have a drivers' license, and I enjoy driving a car, but I also like the interaction with people you get on a bike or a train or a bus.

And the public transport system generally works well – not always, but generally. Things work well in Denmark, not as aggressively as they do in Germany, where I used to live, but generally well.   I love Southern Europe, but I don't think I could live there. The disorganization would drive me crazy.

In general, I find Copenhagen quiet, but sophisticated. I'm happy living here.  I have no plans to live anyplace else.


For anyone curious about or currently navigating Danish life from the outside, How to Live in Denmark serves as an essential, on-the-ground guide. Hosted by Kay Xander Mellish, an American writer who has made Denmark her home for over ten years, this conversation cuts straight to the heart of the everyday realities in one of the world's most homogenous-and often puzzling-societies. Rather than lengthy lectures, you'll find concise, ten-minute episodes packed with practical advice and cultural translation. This isn't just about travel tips; it's a deep dive into the unspoken rules of Danish social etiquette, the nuances of the local workplace, and the sometimes surprising path to feeling at home in a country frequently labeled the world's happiest. Mellish draws from her own long-term experience to explain everything from navigating the infamous Jantelov to understanding the Danish approach to business meetings and casual Friday night hygge. As Denmark's longest-running English-language podcast, it has become a trusted resource for internationals, whether they are planning a move, newly arrived, or have been settled for years but still occasionally find themselves wondering, "Why do Danes do it that way?" Each episode feels like a chat with a well-informed friend who helps decode the complexities of a fascinating culture, making your time there richer and a lot less confusing.
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