How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life (Encore)

How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life (Encore)

Author: Peach Fish Projects February 11, 2025 Duration: 29:39

Ever since she started taking a new medication a few years ago, Meme is worried that she's lost her sex drive. She still has a great relationship with her husband, but she isn't interested in sex the way that she used to be, and she's worried it's hurting her marriage. On this episode of How To!, we bring on sex educator Emily Nagoski, author of Come as You Are, to coach Meme through how to revamp her sex life. For busy couples, you should actually schedule a time on your calendar to be intimate. "Think of like when you were dating…that was date sex," Emily reminds us. She then breaks down the myths that so many of us have internalized about sex, and shares surprising tips to help anyone—no matter their age or relationship status—have better sex.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Save Your Marriage."

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rachael Allen, and Rosemary Belson.


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