Living at Odds | 3. Making Amends for Ancestors

Living at Odds | 3. Making Amends for Ancestors

Author: Peach Fish Projects April 22, 2025 Duration: 38:21

In the third installment of our series Living at Odds, How To!'s Courtney Martin examines what it's like being in conflict with your family history. She talks with ancestors of the famous names in Plessy v. Ferguson, the Supreme Court decision that affirmed racial segregation in the U.S. as "separate but equal." Later, researcher Kellie Farrish explains how reparative genealogy can unlock family history that's been lost or erased—and bring together descendants of enslaved people and their enslavers into conversations about the past, present, and future.

If you're enjoying Living at Odds, check out this How To! episode: How To 'Do the Work' of Racial Justice.

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This episode was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob, who composed original music for this series. Our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Dahlia Lithwick of Amicus and Sophie Summergrad for their help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.


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