Quick Fix: Starting Conversations About Identity

Quick Fix: Starting Conversations About Identity

Author: Peach Fish Projects October 7, 2025 Duration: 7:49

In this special bonus episode, youth mentor Ashanti Branch talks with our listener Jen about her son's early observation about his skin color—and how to sustain conversations with young kids about race and identity.

If you liked this episode check out: How To 'Do the Work' of Racial Justice

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