Stop Performing Your Life: Escaping the Shame Triangle with Jessica Fern & David Cooley

Stop Performing Your Life: Escaping the Shame Triangle with Jessica Fern & David Cooley

Author: Jojo Cottle June 10, 2026 Duration: 37:12
You've done the therapy. Read the books. Cried it out at a retreat. So why does that critical voice in your head keep winning? This week, trauma therapist Jessica Fern (bestselling author of Polysecure) and David Cooley (creator of Restorative Relationship Conversations) join me to expose the Shame Triangle: the hidden pattern keeping you stuck in self criticism, shame, and escape. And here's the wild part. They've been married, divorced, and now coparent and write books together. They don't ...

Jojo Cottle hosts inside OUT: Navigating the Mental, Emotional & Spiritual with Jojo, a space where personal growth is explored from the inside out. This podcast operates from the belief that lasting change happens when we address our mental patterns, emotional landscapes, and spiritual connection in tandem. Each conversation is designed to feel like a practical guide, moving beyond abstract ideas to offer grounded tools and actionable insights you can use in daily life. Whether discussing a mindset shift that reframes challenges or exploring how physical fitness intertwines with emotional resilience, Jojo approaches topics with a relatable and integrative perspective. The discussions naturally weave through categories like self-improvement, health, and spirituality, reflecting a holistic view of well-being. You'll hear explorations on aligning actions with core values, managing the inner critic, and cultivating a deeper sense of purpose. The aim is to provide content that feels both supportive and stimulating, encouraging you to examine your own journey through the lens of M.E.S.-Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual growth. For anyone feeling the pull to live more intentionally and authentically, this podcast serves as a thoughtful companion on that path, emphasizing that transformation is a nuanced and ongoing process. Tune in for episodes that blend reflective questions with tangible strategies for creating a life that feels genuinely yours.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 50

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