It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About the Sex

Author: Westside Therapist Language: English Episodes: 100
Hosted by psychotherapist Andrew Susskind of Westside Therapist, It’s Not About the Sex explores the deeper emotional landscapes that often drive compulsive behaviors. While the title might suggest one topic, the conversations consistently move beneath the surface to examine core human experiences like shame, unresolved grief, and codependency. This podcast, an extension of Andrew's book, provides a thoughtful space where listeners can understand how out-of-control actions are frequently misguided attempts to mend a sense of broken-heartedness. Each episode breaks down complex psychological concepts into relatable discussions, making the journey toward self-improvement feel more accessible and less isolating. By framing issues of sexuality and relationships within the context of mental health and emotional fitness, the show offers a unique perspective on personal growth. You'll hear honest explorations of how patterns of narcissism and emotional dependency shape our lives, alongside practical insights for fostering healthier connections with oneself and others. Tuning in provides more than just information; it’s an invitation to reflect on the underlying narratives that influence daily choices, all from a place of professional expertise and genuine compassion. This is a podcast dedicated to the idea that healing begins when we look past the symptom to address the root cause.
Episodes
Cultivating Contentment - Susskind & Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 24:15
In this episode we take a closer look at Chapter 7 of Andrew’s workbook and examine some of the essential ingredients of contentment including gratitude, connection and unconditional love. Distinctions are made among the…
A Gestalt Healing Perspective - Rafael Cortina, MFT [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:41
Rafael Cortina, a San Diego-based therapist joins the podcast to discuss some of his valuable and wise perspectives on healing from addictive, compulsive behaviors. He shares the following themes: the functional understa…
Feeling the Feelings - Susskind & Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 20:51
During this conversation Andrew and Sue take a deeper dive into Chapter Six Feeling the Feelings from The It’s Not About the Sex Workbook. Maybe it looks simple on the surface, but Andrew highlights the sustainable benef…
Sexual Identity Development - Katie Griffin, CGP [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 33:32
In this episode we welcome Katie Griffin, a nationally-recognized group consultant and leader in the field. She brings her passion and enthusiasm to other practitioners and believes firmly in the power of group to help i…
Regulating the Nervous System - Susskind & Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 28:29
Andrew and Sue discuss Chapter Five, Regulating the Nervous System from Andrew’s recent workbook. Beginning with a memoir snapshot and ending with practical strategies and action steps, they explore the following themes:…
Problematic Sexualized Drug Use - Dr. David Fawcett [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:38
In this episode we welcome Dr. David Fawcett, a clinical social worker, sex therapist and two-time author specializing in chemsex and problematic sexualized drug use. Often a misunderstood form of suffering, David disent…
Moving Beyond Narcissism - Susskind & Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 21:50
Today’s episode focuses on Chapter Four of Andrew’s workbook as we explore the healthier side of narcissism, other-centeredness, generosity of spirit as well as longing and belonging. Beneath narcissism is broken hearted…
From Vocal Coach to Recovery Coach - Arnold McCuller [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:56
In this episode we welcome Arnold McCuller, interventionist and recovery coach based in Southern California. Learn about his extensive career working as a professional vocalist which has taken a later-in-life shift towar…
Psychodrama 101: It’s All About the Warm Up - Jean Campbell [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:15
Today we welcome Jean Campbell, the CEO of Action Institute of California to talk with us about psychodrama, sociometry, resourcing, and Somatic Experiencing—all in the context of compulsive sexual behavior, addictions i…
Turning Down the Volume on Shame - Susskind & Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 22:20
In this episode we examine Chapter Three of Andrew’s workbook as we encourage curiosity and non-judgment about shame. Although shame never goes away entirely, you can respond to it differently. In this discussion we expl…