It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About the Sex

Author: Westside Therapist Language: English Episodes: 100
Hosted by psychotherapist Andrew Susskind of Westside Therapist, It’s Not About the Sex explores the deeper emotional landscapes that often drive compulsive behaviors. While the title might suggest one topic, the conversations consistently move beneath the surface to examine core human experiences like shame, unresolved grief, and codependency. This podcast, an extension of Andrew's book, provides a thoughtful space where listeners can understand how out-of-control actions are frequently misguided attempts to mend a sense of broken-heartedness. Each episode breaks down complex psychological concepts into relatable discussions, making the journey toward self-improvement feel more accessible and less isolating. By framing issues of sexuality and relationships within the context of mental health and emotional fitness, the show offers a unique perspective on personal growth. You'll hear honest explorations of how patterns of narcissism and emotional dependency shape our lives, alongside practical insights for fostering healthier connections with oneself and others. Tuning in provides more than just information; it’s an invitation to reflect on the underlying narratives that influence daily choices, all from a place of professional expertise and genuine compassion. This is a podcast dedicated to the idea that healing begins when we look past the symptom to address the root cause.
Episodes
Sex Addiction No More - Susskind and Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:17
In this podcast we take a closer look at the often-misunderstood term sex addiction in contrast to the World Health Organization’s classification of compulsive sexual behavior. Through Andrew’s personal and professional…
Fantasy as a Survival Strategy - Susskind & Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 23:27
In twelve-step programs such as SLAA, fantasy is often labeled as a problem. Yet, it may also be an adaptive way to cope with a complicated childhood or trauma. So how can fantasy be a pleasurable, liberating experience?…
30 years in Review: 1991-2021 - Susskind and Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:35
This month marks thirty years since Andrew finished his graduate school experience at UCLA, and this podcast takes a clinical stroll down memory lane. From his roots in traditional talk therapy moving on to coaching, som…
Reimagining Midlife - Buck Dodson [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:33
In this podcast, we welcome an old friend and colleague, Buck Dodson who is a life coach and licensed psychotherapist passionate about helping clients share their gifts and activate their superpowers. Buck hosts the Gay…
Grounding Exercise [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 3:15
Many people find it challenging to start a meditation practice. In this “mini-meditation” Andrew will lead you through a brief Grounding exercise that takes less than 5 minutes of your time. Give it a try and see what ha…
Out of Control Sexual Behavior - Douglas Braun-Harvey MFT, CGP [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:15
In this informative podcast, we welcome San Diego-based sexual health author, trainer, and psychotherapist, Douglas Braun-Harvey. His recent book “Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction” sets t…
Taming the Inner Critic - Susskind and Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:49
Today we take a closer look at the inner critic that exists within each of us and often gets entangled with shame and perfectionism. Because you learned in childhood how to judge yourself, you can also learn to cultivate…
Straight Men Who Have Sex with Men - Dr. Joe Kort, Ph.D [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:47
In this podcast, we welcome Dr. Joe Kort, licensed psychotherapist, author, and a board-certified sexologist. He is the founder and director of the Center for Relational and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. Dr. Kort…
Working with Hurt - Susskind and Merlino [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 33:22
In this podcast, we offer an alternative approach to processing hurt. Traditionally, therapists focus on healing the hurt by talking it out with the transgressor (e.g. parent, significant other, co-worker). Instead, toda…