Church Hurt: How to Spot Toxic Churches & Create A Healthy Culture Instead | w/ Top Theologian Scot McKnight (288)

...and how to heal from them! Their brokenness doesn't have to become yours, but first you must be able to identify if that's where your church hurt and confusion is coming from.

If you’ve ever experienced church hurt, felt confused by leadership, or wondered why something felt “off” but you couldn’t explain it—this conversation will likely put words to what you’ve been sensing.

In this episode, I sit down with world-renown theologian and author Scot McKnight to talk about toxic church culture, narcissistic leadership, and what it actually looks like to build a healthy, Christ-centered church rooted in goodness.

We break down why toxic churches often look healthy on the outside, how power gets misused behind the scenes, and how to recognize the difference between spiritual authority and control.

If you’ve been hurt by church, this episode will help you understand what happened—and begin to move forward with peace, comfort and direction.

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⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

0:00 The truth about church hurt
1:10 Why toxic churches look healthy on the outside
4:30 What “Tov” culture actually means
8:45 How power gets abused in church leadership
14:20 Why you can’t always spot toxicity from the platform
19:10 Narcissistic leaders and why they don’t change
25:30 How Scripture gets misused in toxic environments
31:40 Should you stay or leave a toxic church?
38:20 What healthy church leadership actually looks like
45:00 How to begin healing from church hurt

RESOURCES

Scot's Book: "A Church Called Tov" and "Pivot"

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