571: Worrying and Other Deceptive Replacements for Good Leadership

571: Worrying and Other Deceptive Replacements for Good Leadership

Author: Chris Deferio November 11, 2025 Duration: 51:22

In my live workshops with owners and teams, coaching calls with clients, and even in interviews here on the show run into many go-to habits that are replacements for healthy leadership.

Today we are going to be discussing a few of these mindsets and habits that can easily be a sort of counterfeit for the real deal. The real nefarious thing about each of theses habits is the confirmation bias that makes them habits in the first place.

It is my hope that, if you are practicing these things , you get to step away and see clearly the pattern and replace them with the genuine article. 

We cover:

  • Worry
  • Doubt
  • Toxic grace
  • People pleasing
  • Indecision
  • Rushing
  • Dictating

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