How to Confront a Friend

How to Confront a Friend

Author: Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, author, psychologist, focusing on children's feelings, children's friendships, parenting, mental health. October 19, 2024 Duration: 5:49

Ep. 78 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: How to confront a friend.

What can you say when a friend does something that upsets you? How do you get your message across without wrecking the friendship?

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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

- What does it mean to confront a friend about a problem? Have you ever had to do that? What happened?

- How do you decide when to confront a friend about a problem and when to let it go? 

- Why do you think kids are sometimes afraid to confront a friend about a problem?

- Why are refusing to talk to a friend and telling everyone except your friend what your friend did wrong NOT helpful strategies for solving a problem with a friend? What could you do instead?

- Dr. Friendtastic said, “A good confrontation is not about…proving you’re good and they’re bad! It’s about building and repairing a friendship.” What does that mean?

*** You might also like these podcast episodes:

Ep. 73 - J.J., Age 11: Best friend suddenly stops playing with him https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep73-jj-age-11-best-friend-stops-playing-with-him

Ep. 43 - Beatrix, Age 8: Friend cuts her hair! https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/beatrix-age-8-friend-cuts-her-hair

Ep. 65 - Bridget, Age 14: Handling a controlling friend https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep65-bridget-age-14



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In Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8), real children from kindergarten through eighth grade send in their questions about the tricky, wonderful, and sometimes confusing world of friendships. Each week, Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore-a clinical psychologist and author known as Dr. Friendtastic-responds with a thoughtful, practical answer designed just for young listeners. The conversations in this podcast get straight to the heart of what kids experience: navigating arguments, feeling left out, trying to make a new friend, or figuring out how to be a good one themselves. Eileen Kennedy-Moore draws on her deep expertise in children's feelings and social development to offer actionable advice that respects a child's perspective. The format is brief and engaging, with each episode lasting about five minutes, making it an easy listen for a car ride or quiet moment. This isn't about lectures; it's about giving kids the tools and confidence to handle social situations with kindness and resilience. Parents and educators often find the discussions helpful, too, as the podcast naturally opens doors for deeper conversations about emotions and relationships. By focusing on real questions from real kids, the podcast creates a genuine connection, assuring young listeners that their friendship worries are normal and solvable. Tune in weekly to hear compassionate guidance that turns everyday social puzzles into opportunities for growth and connection.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)
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Duration: 7:05
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Celebrating Episode 100!!! [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

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Ep. 100 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Hear what kids have learned from 100 episodes of friendship advice for kidsFREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098fWould YOUR KID like to…
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Duration: 5:19
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Duration: 5:00
Ep. 97 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: The platinum rule | Friendship advice for kidsZoya wants to know how to understand her friends' feelings. FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37…
Dealing with a Bossy Friend (Grace, Age 9) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:45
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Handling embarrassing moments (Sara, Age 7) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:18
Ep. 95 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: 3 types of embarrassmentSara wishes she could never feel embarrassed!FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098fWould YOUR KID like to be feat…
Before you confront a friend | Friendship advice for kids [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

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Not invited to a party! (Alice, Age 6) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 6:04
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