How to tell if a friend is loyal (Julian, Age 12)

How to tell if a friend is loyal (Julian, Age 12)

Author: Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, author, psychologist, focusing on children's feelings, children's friendships, parenting, mental health. September 20, 2025 Duration: 6:02

Ep. 117 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Building trust between friends | Friendship advice for kids

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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

- Dr. Friendtastic says believing “My friend has to show they’re on my side by hating everyone I hate” is a terrible definition of loyalty. Why is that?

- How do you (or would you like to) show loyalty to your friends?

- Why does trust between friends usually build gradually? What helps it grow? (Hint: What helps you know you can trust a friend?)

- If a friend chooses to work with someone else on a school project or plays with someone else at recess, does that mean they are not a loyal friend? Why or why not?

- Do you think of yourself as big or little? Why?

*** You might also like these podcast episodes:

Ep. 79: Is your friend a fake friend? (Mar, age 11) https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep79-mar-age-11-is-your-friend-a-fake-friend

Ep. 59: Get rid of toxic friends (Jessie, Age 13) https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep59-jessie-age-13

Ep. 62: All About Forgiveness https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep62-all-about-forgiveness



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In Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8), real children from kindergarten through eighth grade send in their questions about the tricky, wonderful, and sometimes confusing world of friendships. Each week, Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore-a clinical psychologist and author known as Dr. Friendtastic-responds with a thoughtful, practical answer designed just for young listeners. The conversations in this podcast get straight to the heart of what kids experience: navigating arguments, feeling left out, trying to make a new friend, or figuring out how to be a good one themselves. Eileen Kennedy-Moore draws on her deep expertise in children's feelings and social development to offer actionable advice that respects a child's perspective. The format is brief and engaging, with each episode lasting about five minutes, making it an easy listen for a car ride or quiet moment. This isn't about lectures; it's about giving kids the tools and confidence to handle social situations with kindness and resilience. Parents and educators often find the discussions helpful, too, as the podcast naturally opens doors for deeper conversations about emotions and relationships. By focusing on real questions from real kids, the podcast creates a genuine connection, assuring young listeners that their friendship worries are normal and solvable. Tune in weekly to hear compassionate guidance that turns everyday social puzzles into opportunities for growth and connection.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)
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Duration: 5:19
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Duration: 6:59
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Duration: 5:00
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Dealing with a Bossy Friend (Grace, Age 9) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:45
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Handling embarrassing moments (Sara, Age 7) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:18
Ep. 95 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: 3 types of embarrassmentSara wishes she could never feel embarrassed!FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098fWould YOUR KID like to be feat…
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Duration: 6:01
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Duration: 6:04
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What to say when a friend is feeling down (Mason, Age 13) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:17
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