Knowing when and how to stop (Owen, Age 8)

Knowing when and how to stop (Owen, Age 8)

Author: Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, author, psychologist, focusing on children's feelings, children's friendships, parenting, mental health. August 17, 2024 Duration: 5:30

Ep. 70 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Sending and receiving Stop Signals

Owen asks about Stop Signals, which are all the verbal and nonverbal ways people tell someone to stop. Sending and receiving Stop Signals effectively can protect a friendship!

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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

- Why are Stop Signals important for protecting friendships? (Hint: What could happen if you want a friend to stop doing something, but you don’t say anything? What could happen if your friend gives you a Stop Signal and you ignore it?) 

- Describe a time when a friend asked you to stop doing something. How did you feel about being asked to stop? How did you respond? 

- Describe a time when you wanted a friend to stop doing something. How did you handle it? How did your friend respond?

- Why do you think kids sometimes ignore Stop Signals?

- What are some things you could do if you ask someone to stop but they don’t listen? 

*** You might also like these podcast episodes:

Ep. 41 - Tessa, Age 9: Friends won't listen to stop or no https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/tessa-age-9-boundaries

Ep. 18 – Kai, Age 9: Friends call him bossy https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep-18-kai

Ep. 43 - Beatrix, Age 8: Friend cut her hair! https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/beatrix-age-8-friend-cuts-her-hair



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In Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8), real children from kindergarten through eighth grade send in their questions about the tricky, wonderful, and sometimes confusing world of friendships. Each week, Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore-a clinical psychologist and author known as Dr. Friendtastic-responds with a thoughtful, practical answer designed just for young listeners. The conversations in this podcast get straight to the heart of what kids experience: navigating arguments, feeling left out, trying to make a new friend, or figuring out how to be a good one themselves. Eileen Kennedy-Moore draws on her deep expertise in children's feelings and social development to offer actionable advice that respects a child's perspective. The format is brief and engaging, with each episode lasting about five minutes, making it an easy listen for a car ride or quiet moment. This isn't about lectures; it's about giving kids the tools and confidence to handle social situations with kindness and resilience. Parents and educators often find the discussions helpful, too, as the podcast naturally opens doors for deeper conversations about emotions and relationships. By focusing on real questions from real kids, the podcast creates a genuine connection, assuring young listeners that their friendship worries are normal and solvable. Tune in weekly to hear compassionate guidance that turns everyday social puzzles into opportunities for growth and connection.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)
Podcast Episodes
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Duration: 5:17
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Arguments with a friend (Kenna & Scarlett, Age 8) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 6:32
Ep. 91 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: This important assumption helps you move past a friendship rough spot Kenna and Scarlett, who want to know what to do when they start arguing. FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? h…
Friend breaks a promise (Alma, Age 7) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 6:00
Ep. 90 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Why friends sometimes let us downAlma wants to know what to do about a friend who broke her promiseFREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f…
Getting in trouble (Noah, Age 7) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 6:27
Ep. 89 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: How to deal with an angry personNoah is frustrated that he got in trouble. How can he handle it?FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098fWou…
How to support an injured friend (Sophia, Age 7) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 3:55
Ep. 88 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Practical support, emotional support, and the importance of on-going support.Sophia wants to know how to support a friend who has broken her leg.FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend?…
People passing notes about her (Leni, Age 9) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:01
Ep. 87 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Figuring out what we can and can’t control.Leni feels hurt and angry that kids are passing notes about her. What can she do?FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkenned…
How to know if you can trust a friend (Sally, Age 14) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:17
Ep. 86 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: What makes a trustworthy friend?Sally wants to know how she can tell if a friend is trustworthy.FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098fWou…
Fitting in versus being true to yourself (Nev, Age 11) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:36
Ep. 85 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: No friend group has more power than you. Nev wonders what her mom means when she says, "No friend group has more power than you."FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenk…
Fights with close friends (Eloise, Age 8) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 4:20
Ep. 83 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: How to make conflict less frequent and less painful.Eloise wonders why best friends have bad fights.FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098…