People passing notes about her (Leni, Age 9)

People passing notes about her (Leni, Age 9)

Author: Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, author, psychologist, focusing on children's feelings, children's friendships, parenting, mental health. January 18, 2025 Duration: 5:01

Ep. 87 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Figuring out what we can and can’t control.

Leni feels hurt and angry that kids are passing notes about her. What can she do?

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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

- Why do you think kids sometimes pass notes about other kids?

- What are some reasons why Leni does NOT have to know what’s in the notes about her? (Hint: How would she feel if she read a mean note about her?)

- Dr. Friendtastic says, “We can’t control what other people do.” What are some things you CAN control in your interactions with other kids?

*** You might also like these podcast episodes:

Ep. 76 – Ayana, Age 10: Friends ditch her

https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep76-anaya-age-10-friends-ditch-her

Ep. 51 - Saorise, Age 8: Mean comment said behind her back

https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/saoirse-age-8-mean-comment-said-behind

Ep. 35 - Ryan, Age 11: Peer put down his interests

https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ryan-age-11-peers-put-down-his-interests



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In Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8), real children from kindergarten through eighth grade send in their questions about the tricky, wonderful, and sometimes confusing world of friendships. Each week, Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore-a clinical psychologist and author known as Dr. Friendtastic-responds with a thoughtful, practical answer designed just for young listeners. The conversations in this podcast get straight to the heart of what kids experience: navigating arguments, feeling left out, trying to make a new friend, or figuring out how to be a good one themselves. Eileen Kennedy-Moore draws on her deep expertise in children's feelings and social development to offer actionable advice that respects a child's perspective. The format is brief and engaging, with each episode lasting about five minutes, making it an easy listen for a car ride or quiet moment. This isn't about lectures; it's about giving kids the tools and confidence to handle social situations with kindness and resilience. Parents and educators often find the discussions helpful, too, as the podcast naturally opens doors for deeper conversations about emotions and relationships. By focusing on real questions from real kids, the podcast creates a genuine connection, assuring young listeners that their friendship worries are normal and solvable. Tune in weekly to hear compassionate guidance that turns everyday social puzzles into opportunities for growth and connection.
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