#92 Tom O’Neill on Language Learning for Introverts

#92 Tom O’Neill on Language Learning for Introverts

Author: Fluent in 3 Months March 28, 2022 Duration: 38:20

Fluent in 3 Months Challenge participant and coach, Tom, joins Shannon and Benny to talk about his building confidence and courage as an introverted language learner as a part of the Fluent in 3 Months Challenge.

This episode features Tom, who made significant progress in many languages in just 90 days with the Fluent in 3 Months Challenge.

We guarantee that anyone who completes the Fluent in 3 Months Challenge will have a 15-minute conversation in their new language after 90 days of learning. You can find out more here.

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Episode Overview

Some of the topics discussed in the interview are:

  • Learning new writing systems and Asian languages
  • Using scripts to get ahead in your conversations in another language
  • Why you sometimes need to do things that are outside your comfort zone, like videos, to get ahead in your learning
  • How introversion impacts your language studies - both good and bad
  • How to pick the right language tutor
  • How to build confidence and courage in yourself and your language skills
  • Maintaining motivation when life throws curveballs at you
  • Tips for avoiding the comparison trap
  • Choosing things to talk about in another language
  • How to get through moments in conversations where you don’t understand
  • Why it’s important to celebrate success - whether big or small
  • Juggling multiple languages as a hobbyist

Podcast theme: “A New Beginning” by Shannon Kennedy

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