The confidence plateau

The confidence plateau

Author: Fluent in 3 Months April 14, 2025 Duration: 9:36

In this episode, I talk about the “confidence plateau” I’ve hit while learning Indonesian during my travels in Java. Even though I know the language fairly well, I often catch myself switching to English because of self-doubt. It’s not that I don’t understand—it’s that I tell myself I don’t, and that hesitation stops me from properly engaging in the conversation. Most of my interactions are really brief, which makes it harder to build the momentum I need to feel confident.

To break through this, I’ve decided to get back into regular speaking lessons—at least two a week—so I can rebuild that flow and trust in myself. I compare it to trying to start a car on a hill: getting going takes effort, but once you’re moving, it becomes much easier. If you're also stuck at this stage, just know it’s completely normal. With structure and consistent practice, we can push through. And if you’d like a bit of support with that, check out the Fluent in 3 Months Bootcamp.


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