I Did The Most Trying To Be Loved Then I Had To Face Myself | For Mannerless Women

I Did The Most Trying To Be Loved Then I Had To Face Myself | For Mannerless Women

Author: Legally Clueless April 10, 2026 Duration: 56:57
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Sarah Mukabana (Plus Wanga Princess) for a raw, honest, and deeply relatable conversation about self-worth, validation, and what it really takes to come back to yourself. From losing herself in a relationship where she constantly sought to be chosen, to navigating the messy aftermath of a breakup, Sarah opens up about the moments many women experience, but rarely say out loud. This episode explores:
  • The pressure to perform in relationships to feel loved
  • The “pick-me” phase and how it shows up in real life
  • What happens after a breakup, the chaos, the overdoing, and the crash
  • Rebuilding your self-worth from within
  • Simple daily practices that help you genuinely like yourself
At its core, this episode asks one powerful question:
Do you actually like yourself, when no one else is watching? If you’ve ever felt like you had to overgive, overperform, or become someone else to be loved, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

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Each week on Legally Clueless, Adelle Onyango turns the microphone toward the beautifully messy reality of growth. As a well-known Kenyan media personality and social activist, she doesn't offer polished advice from a stage, but instead documents her own unvarnished experiences, framing her life as an evolving and unapologetically African woman. This creates a rare and welcoming atmosphere where uncertainty isn't a flaw but a shared starting point. The heart of this podcast lives in the stories-Adelle opens the space for a chorus of African voices to share personal narratives that might teach you something one moment and have you laughing or crying the next. These aren't theoretical discussions; they're authentic accounts from everyday lives, full of the specific textures and truths that often go unheard. Tuning in feels less like attending a lecture and more like sitting in on a powerful, ongoing conversation where the only requirement is to be human. You'll find a sense of connection in hearing others navigate the same complexities you do, all within the candid and compassionate world this podcast builds every episode.
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