The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease

The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease

Author: Legally Clueless August 25, 2026 Duration: 22:02
Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while.This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly enough, what if I regret leaving?

She explores self-abandonment, the sunk-cost fallacy, our attachment to potential, the difference between intuition and anxiety, and why we sometimes keep asking for another sign when our bodies have been giving us information all along. Plus, a question worth sitting with:If you trusted yourself completely, what would you already know? In this episode:
  • Why “relationships are hard” can keep us tolerating chronic unhappiness
  • Falling in love with someone's potential instead of the relationship you actually have
  • Why someone doesn't have to be a bad person for you to leave
  • The sunk-cost fallacy and staying because you've already invested years
  • When communication becomes negotiating against reality
  • Listening to your gut without treating every uncomfortable feeling as intuition
  • Why fear of what comes after leaving can masquerade as uncertainty about whether to leave
  • How self-abandonment slowly erodes self-trust
  • Questions to ask yourself when you know something isn't working
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Each week on Legally Clueless, Adelle Onyango turns the microphone toward the beautifully messy reality of growth. As a well-known Kenyan media personality and social activist, she doesn't offer polished advice from a stage, but instead documents her own unvarnished experiences, framing her life as an evolving and unapologetically African woman. This creates a rare and welcoming atmosphere where uncertainty isn't a flaw but a shared starting point. The heart of this podcast lives in the stories-Adelle opens the space for a chorus of African voices to share personal narratives that might teach you something one moment and have you laughing or crying the next. These aren't theoretical discussions; they're authentic accounts from everyday lives, full of the specific textures and truths that often go unheard. Tuning in feels less like attending a lecture and more like sitting in on a powerful, ongoing conversation where the only requirement is to be human. You'll find a sense of connection in hearing others navigate the same complexities you do, all within the candid and compassionate world this podcast builds every episode.
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