This Is Why You Keep Playing Small | Mid Week Tease

This Is Why You Keep Playing Small | Mid Week Tease

Author: Legally Clueless March 31, 2026 Duration: 15:48
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the limiting beliefs that quietly shape how you see yourself, your work, your money, and your life. A lot of what we call self-doubt, fear, or “not feeling ready” isn’t random. It’s learned. Formed in childhood. Reinforced over time. And often… never questioned. In this episode, Adelle explores how early experiences shape core beliefs like:
  • “I’m not good enough”
  • “I have to prove my worth”
  • “Success isn’t for me”
And how these beliefs show up in adulthood:
  • playing small at work
  • struggling with visibility
  • undercharging in business
  • constantly seeking validation
Drawing from psychology frameworks like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Schema Theory, and learned helplessness, this episode helps you understand why you keep repeating certain patterns and how to begin shifting them. If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, this episode will help you see why. And more importantly what you can start doing about it. 

Join Us: Becoming The Woman You Want To Be
Adelle Onyango is hosting an upcoming wellness talk with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu on April 11th. Together, they’ll guide you through:
  • understanding your childhood patterns
  • unpacking limiting beliefs
  • breaking cycles that no longer serve you
  • and becoming the woman you know you’re meant to be
The event is already 50% sold out. If this episode resonated with you, this is your invitation to go deeper. Get your ticket here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/69c004151d6e078f7e884f1d

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Each week on Legally Clueless, Adelle Onyango turns the microphone toward the beautifully messy reality of growth. As a well-known Kenyan media personality and social activist, she doesn't offer polished advice from a stage, but instead documents her own unvarnished experiences, framing her life as an evolving and unapologetically African woman. This creates a rare and welcoming atmosphere where uncertainty isn't a flaw but a shared starting point. The heart of this podcast lives in the stories-Adelle opens the space for a chorus of African voices to share personal narratives that might teach you something one moment and have you laughing or crying the next. These aren't theoretical discussions; they're authentic accounts from everyday lives, full of the specific textures and truths that often go unheard. Tuning in feels less like attending a lecture and more like sitting in on a powerful, ongoing conversation where the only requirement is to be human. You'll find a sense of connection in hearing others navigate the same complexities you do, all within the candid and compassionate world this podcast builds every episode.
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