Would You Let Anyone Else Talk To You Like This? | Mid Week Tease

Would You Let Anyone Else Talk To You Like This? | Mid Week Tease

Author: Legally Clueless August 18, 2026 Duration: 26:16
What happens when the person you hear most is constantly criticising you?

This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks negative self-talk: the cruel, critical and sometimes deeply familiar voice we can mistake for our own truth. She explores where our inner critic comes from, why being hard on ourselves can feel like a form of motivation or protection, and the important question we rarely stop to ask: whose voice is this?

Adelle also gets into how negative self-talk can shape our confidence, relationships, willingness to take risks and even the identities we build around our mistakes. Plus, practical ways to change your inner dialogue without forcing yourself into positive affirmations you don't actually believe.Because the goal isn't to tell yourself you're amazing every minute of the day. It's to build an inner voice that can be honest, accountable and compassionate a voice that feels safe to come home to.

Plus, a special thank you to everyone who got their ticket to the now sold-out For Mannerless Women Live! Ticket holders, keep an eye on your email and the Legally Clueless socials as we share updates in the lead-up to the event.

In this episode:
  • How to recognise negative self-talk
  • Where your inner critic may have come from
  • Why self-criticism can masquerade as motivation
  • The difference between accountability and cruelty
  • How the inner critic turns experiences into identities
  • Why “Whose voice is this?” is such a powerful question
  • How to replace cruel thoughts with more accurate ones
  • Building an inner voice you can actually trust
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Each week on Legally Clueless, Adelle Onyango turns the microphone toward the beautifully messy reality of growth. As a well-known Kenyan media personality and social activist, she doesn't offer polished advice from a stage, but instead documents her own unvarnished experiences, framing her life as an evolving and unapologetically African woman. This creates a rare and welcoming atmosphere where uncertainty isn't a flaw but a shared starting point. The heart of this podcast lives in the stories-Adelle opens the space for a chorus of African voices to share personal narratives that might teach you something one moment and have you laughing or crying the next. These aren't theoretical discussions; they're authentic accounts from everyday lives, full of the specific textures and truths that often go unheard. Tuning in feels less like attending a lecture and more like sitting in on a powerful, ongoing conversation where the only requirement is to be human. You'll find a sense of connection in hearing others navigate the same complexities you do, all within the candid and compassionate world this podcast builds every episode.
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