The 3 Biggest Mistakes That Make Power Struggles Worse (And What to Do Instead) – 344

The 3 Biggest Mistakes That Make Power Struggles Worse (And What to Do Instead) – 344

Author: Pam Howard March 11, 2025 Duration: 14:51

You might be familiar with the story I've shared on my podcast and in my book about the morning my 3-year-old refused to get dressed for camp. It became a turning point in my life.

As she hid under the dining room table, something in me snapped. With my sister watching in stunned silence, I lost complete control—yelling, threatening, and eventually spanking my daughter in a rage I didn't recognize. The shame and guilt that followed were overwhelming, but they became the catalyst for profound change.

That rock-bottom moment led me through therapy, coaching, countless parenting books, and additional professional training that transformed not just how I parent, but my entire approach to life.

I'm sharing this because in today's episode, I reveal the three biggest mistakes that make power struggles worse and what to do instead.

If you're locked in daily battles with your kids, this might be exactly what you need to hear right now.

 

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Pam Howard brings a refreshingly practical voice to the often chaotic world of parenting with Less Drama More Mama. Drawing from her unique background as a Master Certified Life Coach, a licensed clinical social worker, and a former school counselor, she moves beyond theory to offer real, usable strategies for everyday family life. This isn't about achieving perfection; it's about replacing overwhelm with a sense of grounded confidence. Each episode feels like a conversation with a knowledgeable friend who truly gets it. Pam weaves together personal anecdotes from her own journey as a mom with anonymized case studies from her coaching practice, creating a relatable and insightful listen. You'll find specific life coaching tools and perspectives designed to transform those moments of feeling frazzled or disconnected into opportunities for calm and stronger bonds with your kids. The Less Drama More Mama podcast is a resource for any parent looking to cultivate more peace and less reactivity at home, covering topics that span child development, educational challenges, and personal growth. It’s a space where the focus shifts from simply managing behavior to understanding the underlying dynamics, empowering you to handle what comes your way with more grace and less guilt.
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