Why Holiday Boundaries Feel Hard and What to Do About It - 380

Why Holiday Boundaries Feel Hard and What to Do About It - 380

Author: Pam Howard November 18, 2025 Duration: 9:31

When my older daughter was in preschool, I volunteered to be the room mom.

After that year, the teacher asked if I wanted to do it again.

I said no and felt zero guilt. None.

I simply didn't want to spend my time that way again.

Saying no made my life easier, not harder.

As the holidays approach, many moms convince themselves they should say yes to things they don't want to do (e.g. class parties, hosting, baking, gifting, organizing, coordinating), and then wonder why they feel stretched thin and resentful by December 15.

In today's episode, I'm talking about why holiday boundaries can feel so hard and what to do about it.

If you struggle to set and enforce boundaries, especially at the holidays, this episode will help you understand why your body won't let you say no, and what needs to change for you to protect your limits without abandoning yourself.

https://lessdramamoremama.com/380


Pam Howard brings a refreshingly practical voice to the often chaotic world of parenting with Less Drama More Mama. Drawing from her unique background as a Master Certified Life Coach, a licensed clinical social worker, and a former school counselor, she moves beyond theory to offer real, usable strategies for everyday family life. This isn't about achieving perfection; it's about replacing overwhelm with a sense of grounded confidence. Each episode feels like a conversation with a knowledgeable friend who truly gets it. Pam weaves together personal anecdotes from her own journey as a mom with anonymized case studies from her coaching practice, creating a relatable and insightful listen. You'll find specific life coaching tools and perspectives designed to transform those moments of feeling frazzled or disconnected into opportunities for calm and stronger bonds with your kids. The Less Drama More Mama podcast is a resource for any parent looking to cultivate more peace and less reactivity at home, covering topics that span child development, educational challenges, and personal growth. It’s a space where the focus shifts from simply managing behavior to understanding the underlying dynamics, empowering you to handle what comes your way with more grace and less guilt.
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