Feeling drained? Here's how to lighten your mental load

Feeling drained? Here's how to lighten your mental load

Author: NPR April 21, 2026 Duration: 24:42
Did you remember to pick up milk? Or reschedule that dentist appointment? Oh, and pick up cupcakes for the meeting? The never-ending tending to the never-ending to-do list is known as the mental load. Sociologist Leah Ruppanner explains how to tame the mental load in her new book, Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More.

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