Beyond Pronouns: Don’t Call Her My Wife

Beyond Pronouns: Don’t Call Her My Wife

Author: Siena & Toast October 24, 2023 Duration: 26:14
Just because a lesbian couple is married does not mean they really want you to call them “wives.” We can’t totally explain it, we just know it’s true. In this episode, we have fun musing over the reasons for our mutual distaste for the term ‘wife.’
We also share some personal stories about other terms you could use, along with a funny, awkward anecdote from the era before such broad social awareness of the LGBTQ community, that exists now.
We start discussing the main topic at around 8:15 into the episode.
For the Protein Cookie Recipe, check out the show notes on our podcast blog at SienaandToast.com
A few related episodes:

The Problem with Pronouns: Misgendered Adventures



Is ‘Coming Out’ Still a Thing?



Coming Out: Process and Our Stories



Pride Month: Good People Celebrate Goodness



LGBTQ-positive Peace, Love, and Laughs: a Pride Month episode



Pride: Then and Now



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Siena & Toast have been partners in life and music since 2001, a married lesbian couple who are API and originally from Hawaii. They bring that unique perspective to every conversation on Live Your Love Story. This isn't about presenting a perfect facade; it's about the real, ongoing work of building a meaningful life together, rooted in their experiences within the LGBTQ community. You'll hear discussions that weave together personal stories with broader themes of culture, holistic health, and positive spirituality. The tone is intentionally uplifting and entertaining, but there's always an educational thread-whether they're exploring relationships, self-improvement, or what it means to be a progressive ally. Think of tuning in as a chance to sit with two friends who believe that personal growth and authentic connection are the foundations of any great love story. Their podcast offers a blend of warmth and practical insight, creating a space dedicated to being the best you can be, individually and within your communities. It’s about the daily choice to live intentionally, with joy and purpose.
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