How Did You First Know You Were Gay?

How Did You First Know You Were Gay?

Author: Siena & Toast October 31, 2023 Duration: 34:05
Live Your Love Story
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We’re a couple of Asian Americans who grew up in Hawaii back in the ‘70s and ‘80s. In this episode, we talk about what it was like back then, to realize, slowly over time, that we were gay.
The main topic discussion starts at around 10 minutes.
(Before that, Siena’s on a mission to educate Toast about classic movies.)
We’re a couple of Asian Americans who grew up in Hawaii back in the ‘70s and ‘80s. In this episode, we talk about what it was like back then, to realize, slowly over time, that we were gay.
The main topic discussion starts at around 10 minutes.
(Before that, Siena’s on a mission to educate Toast about classic movies.)
For Toast’s portion, topics include:

a seven year-old’s awareness



“Jo” on The Facts of Life TV show



being ‘non-heterosexual’ was not on the menu



Princess Leia and the gold bikini



and more



For Siena’s portion, topics include:

growing up with aunts and uncles with ‘friends’ who were the same sex



no direct references to aunts or uncles being ‘gay’



‘bisexuality’ was not on the menu



‘being feminine while being lesbian’ was not on the menu



and more

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Siena & Toast have been partners in life and music since 2001, a married lesbian couple who are API and originally from Hawaii. They bring that unique perspective to every conversation on Live Your Love Story. This isn't about presenting a perfect facade; it's about the real, ongoing work of building a meaningful life together, rooted in their experiences within the LGBTQ community. You'll hear discussions that weave together personal stories with broader themes of culture, holistic health, and positive spirituality. The tone is intentionally uplifting and entertaining, but there's always an educational thread-whether they're exploring relationships, self-improvement, or what it means to be a progressive ally. Think of tuning in as a chance to sit with two friends who believe that personal growth and authentic connection are the foundations of any great love story. Their podcast offers a blend of warmth and practical insight, creating a space dedicated to being the best you can be, individually and within your communities. It’s about the daily choice to live intentionally, with joy and purpose.
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