Miriam Toews: A loud voice in a town once ruled by silence

Miriam Toews: A loud voice in a town once ruled by silence

Author: BBC World Service November 17, 2025 Duration: 41:38

The award-winning author who used her strict Mennonite upbringing to tell its unspoken stories.

Miriam Toews is one of Canada’s most acclaimed novelists, but her journey began far from the literary world. Raised in the conservative Mennonite town of Steinbach, Manitoba, she grew up surrounded by deep faith, strict expectations, and a culture where silence often covered over difficult truths. The town didn't even have a train station to keep it separate from the 'worldy' practices of contemporary society. At home, her devout father Mel’s lifelong battle with mental illness and her mother Elvira’s rebellious streak created a world of tenderness and tension — one Miriam would later transform into funny and powerful fiction.

Miriam reflects on how she became a writer: the restless imagination that sparked during childhood, her early escape from the confines of her community, and the personal losses that shaped novels such as A Complicated Kindness, All My Puny Sorrows, and Women Talking. With success also came the cost of telling stories about identity, family, mental health and faith — stories her community never dare speak aloud.

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Presenter: Jo Fidgen Producers: Laura Thomas and Edgar Maddicott Editor: Munazza Khan

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