Tulisa: I wanted fame, but it almost destroyed me

Tulisa: I wanted fame, but it almost destroyed me

Author: BBC World Service December 15, 2025 Duration: 39:10

N-Dubz singer Tulisa Contostavlos survived betrayal and a tabloid sting.

Tulisa was born into a family of musicians in Camden, London, and says music was part of her everyday life. But her childhood was impacted by her mother's severe mental health episodes that would often end up with her being held in psychiatric institutions. After her parents divorced, Tulisa would frequently have to care for her mother by herself.

Tulisa escaped into music, and although she was initially determined to become a solo star, she found huge success with the UK group N-Dubz, formed with a cousin and a friend, when she was in her teens.

At the age of 22 she became the youngest ever judge on the UK TV talent show The X Factor, but her biggest challenge was working out how to survive in the spotlight. At the peak of her fame an ex-boyfriend released an intimate video of her online, without her consent, and Tulisa had to go to court to have it removed from websites. In 2013 she was also the target of an elaborate undercover newspaper sting that led to her facing jail for drug supply, before the trial collapsed and she was cleared. The experience almost derailed her career, and her life.

Tulisa's latest book is called Judgement.

Presenter: Mobeen Azhar Producers: Tommy Dixon and Rebecca Vincent

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