Grief as a Sacred Opening – Zeyneb Sayilgan

Grief as a Sacred Opening – Zeyneb Sayilgan

Author: Meli Solomon, the Talking with God Project May 8, 2025 Duration: 44:26

Episode 97.  

Burying a child is an unimaginable trauma that no parent should have to face. My guest today, Zeyneb Sayilgan, has sadly needed to endure that pain and grief twice. Through it all, her Muslim faith has sustained her and provided a path for healing. She has joined me to talk about her experience of loss and subsequent growth, as well as the related Islamic beliefs about death and the afterlife. We also touch on where the beliefs are similar to those in Judaism. Zeyneb brings both personal experience and knowledge to this complex topic. 


Highlights: 

  • Zeyneb’s personal religious and cultural background
  • Engagement with death in the Muslim community
  • Comparison of death practices and attitudes in different countries
  • Parallels and differences with Jewish and Christian practices
  • Detailed overview of Islamic funeral practices
  • Community healing through grief
  • Life's value: time and eternity


Bio:   

Zeyneb Sayilgan, Ph.D., is the Muslim Scholar at ICJS, The Institute for Islamic, Christian, and Jewish Studies in Baltimore, where her research focuses on Islamic theology and spirituality as articulated in the writings of Muslim scholar Bediüzzaman Said Nursi (1876-1960). She is the host of the Podcast On Being Muslim. You can read her publications on her blog.


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  • Bonus episode on Tahara


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