'I Never Had To Say I'm Gay Or I'm Queer Or I'm Pansexual' - with D'orjay

'I Never Had To Say I'm Gay Or I'm Queer Or I'm Pansexual' - with D'orjay

Author: lost queer spaces November 27, 2024 Duration: 52:29

Although I can appreciate a lot of the things about getting older I wouldn't say that I'm totally super enthusiastic about it (especially the creaking joints!).


So, it was kind of nice to talk to singer/songwriter D'orjay and get a different perspective on getting on in years.


And, in fact, everything about this week conversation is just lovely.

It's one of those looking-back-at-teenage-you and thinking both 'what the hell was wrong with you?' at the same time as 'oooh, you are such a special person', and I always find those conversations really affirming.

Finding out about a teenage D'orjay who had just moved to Edmonton, Canada, and found a little corner of the city in the gay bar The Roost was just delightful.


It's worth nothing that there are a couple of things that come up in this chat that are worth mentioning so you can keep up. -

D’orjay is a trained shaman, so they share a bit about their practice One of their day jobs is delivering post, which makes an appearance too!


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Lost Spaces: Memories from Gay Bars, Lesbian Clubs, and LGBTQ+ Parties is a series of intimate conversations about the venues and parties that have served as crucial backdrops for queer life. Host K Anderson guides each episode with a gentle curiosity, focusing on a single guest’s personal connection to a place that no longer exists in the same way. These are not dry historical accounts, but vivid, emotional recollections. You’ll hear about the specific bar where someone first felt seen, the underground club that provided a sanctuary, or the party where a community solidified. The discussions naturally delve into how these environments fostered identity, provided safety, and built the networks that define so many LGBTQ+ lives. This podcast operates on the understanding that a physical space is often the container for our most formative experiences-first kisses, political awakenings, chosen families. By documenting these lost spaces through personal narrative, the show archives a living history of queer culture that exists beyond official records. The tone is reflective and often poignant, as guests explore not just what these places were, but what their absence means. It’s about the lingering impact of a closed door, and how the memories forged in those rooms continue to resonate. Listening feels like being part of a necessary preservation project, one story at a time, highlighting why these communal hubs were, and remain, vital to health and well-being. Each episode is a specific journey into a memory, making the broader point about collective loss and resilience without ever needing to state it outright.
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Lost Spaces: Memories from Gay Bars, Lesbian Clubs, and LGBTQ+ Parties
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