Moral Injury: How to Stop Punishing Yourself for the Past | Happiness | E549

Moral Injury: How to Stop Punishing Yourself for the Past | Happiness | E549

Author: Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby August 20, 2026 Duration: 53:43
What if the thing you’re most ashamed of isn’t proof that you’re a bad person…but proof that you care deeply about being a good one? If there’s something you did (or didn’t do) that you still replay in your mind years later, I want you to hear this: There may be a name for what you’re carrying. Moral injury. And no, healing it does not mean pretending it was okay. In this episode, I’m talking with Dr. Jaimie Lusk, a board-certified psychologist, Marine Corps veteran, longtime VA clinician, and leading expert on moral injury. Together, we unpack why some experiences turn into crushing guilt and shame, and how to finally start loosening their grip. You’ll learn: Why guilt that won’t go away may actually be evidence of your conscience What moral injury is and why it can leave you feeling fundamentally “bad” The “million-dollar question” that can completely change how you see what happened How to separate your actual responsibility from the responsibility you’ve taken on What to say when someone you love is withdrawing under the weight of shame Why healing isn’t about erasing the past, but about deciding what you do with it now How to find the right kind of professional help for moral injury You cannot go back and change what happened. But you do not have to spend the rest of your life punishing yourself for it. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

You’re not alone in wanting more from your life and relationships, and that’s exactly where Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby meets you. Hosted by therapist and coach Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, this podcast feels like a thoughtful conversation with a wise friend who also happens to be an expert. Each episode delves into the real, sometimes messy work of building a better life, whether you're navigating communication in a partnership, seeking to heal from past hurt, or looking for practical ways to manage your emotions and stress. The discussions are grounded in both compassion and evidence-based strategies, moving beyond simple advice to explore the underlying patterns that shape our well-being. By listening, you’ll find actionable insights for fostering deeper emotional intimacy, overcoming the obstacles that keep you stuck, and cultivating genuine personal growth. It’s a resource for anyone ready to do the meaningful work of creating more love, health, and fulfillment in their daily existence. Tune in for a blend of guidance and genuine support that makes the journey toward success feel not only possible but understandable.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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