The Silent Mind Game You’ll Never Win: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | Happiness | E534

The Silent Mind Game You’ll Never Win: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | Happiness | E534

Author: Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby June 29, 2026 Duration: 1:03:01
There is a silent mind game stealing your peace — and you’ve been trained to play it every day.  If you can’t stop comparing yourself to others, this episode may hit a nerve. That sick little feeling of “Why am I not enough?” It isn’t something another promotion, relationship, body, bank account, or achievement is going to fix. I’m sitting down with Harvard psychologist Dr. Ron Siegel to reveal the brutal truth: your brain is wired to rank you. And the comparison game is designed so you never actually win. This conversation will help you understand why success never satisfies for long, why self-esteem can become a trap, and how radical self-acceptance can finally get you off the emotional rollercoaster. You’ll learn: Why comparing yourself to others feels impossible to stop The ancient brain wiring behind “not good enough” Why every achievement high wears off so fast How social media and culture weaponize comparison Why “just build your self-esteem” can backfire The shift from impressing people to actually connecting How to begin feeling free without becoming someone else This is for anyone who’s tired of measuring their worth against everyone else’s highlight reel. You don’t have to win the comparison game to feel okay. You can step out of it — and come back to yourself. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.

You’re not alone in wanting more from your life and relationships, and that’s exactly where Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby meets you. Hosted by therapist and coach Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, this podcast feels like a thoughtful conversation with a wise friend who also happens to be an expert. Each episode delves into the real, sometimes messy work of building a better life, whether you're navigating communication in a partnership, seeking to heal from past hurt, or looking for practical ways to manage your emotions and stress. The discussions are grounded in both compassion and evidence-based strategies, moving beyond simple advice to explore the underlying patterns that shape our well-being. By listening, you’ll find actionable insights for fostering deeper emotional intimacy, overcoming the obstacles that keep you stuck, and cultivating genuine personal growth. It’s a resource for anyone ready to do the meaningful work of creating more love, health, and fulfillment in their daily existence. Tune in for a blend of guidance and genuine support that makes the journey toward success feel not only possible but understandable.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Why You Ruminate (and How To Stop) | E524 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:06:23
This week we're doing a deep dive into the science of the brain, to help you get a handle on yours. Today's episode is all about "rumination." Grinding on the same thought, over and over again. We all do it: Replay conve…
How to Stop Being Codependent | LHS Classic [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:14:35
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How to Connect With Your Partner on a Deeper Level | Love | E522 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 52:34
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How to Get What You Want | Happiness | E521 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:06:07
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Betrayal Trauma Recovery | LHS Classic [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:05:31
Sometimes the worst part of betrayal is not what happened. It’s what keeps happening inside you afterward. Betrayal trauma recovery is about understanding why betrayal trauma can leave you anxious, hypervigilant, angry,…