When Therapy For Breakups Backfires (And What To Do Instead) | E443

When Therapy For Breakups Backfires (And What To Do Instead) | E443

Author: Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby February 25, 2025 Duration: 44:26
Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down: The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!) Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords) The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles Timestamps: 00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!) 00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery 02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist 15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck 24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!) 26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?) 34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain.  That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward.  And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve!  Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱  Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️  

You’re not alone in wanting more from your life and relationships, and that’s exactly where Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby meets you. Hosted by therapist and coach Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, this podcast feels like a thoughtful conversation with a wise friend who also happens to be an expert. Each episode delves into the real, sometimes messy work of building a better life, whether you're navigating communication in a partnership, seeking to heal from past hurt, or looking for practical ways to manage your emotions and stress. The discussions are grounded in both compassion and evidence-based strategies, moving beyond simple advice to explore the underlying patterns that shape our well-being. By listening, you’ll find actionable insights for fostering deeper emotional intimacy, overcoming the obstacles that keep you stuck, and cultivating genuine personal growth. It’s a resource for anyone ready to do the meaningful work of creating more love, health, and fulfillment in their daily existence. Tune in for a blend of guidance and genuine support that makes the journey toward success feel not only possible but understandable.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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