Being Happy When Your Partner Isn't

Being Happy When Your Partner Isn't

Author: Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW June 12, 2023 Duration: 42:58
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry consider the awkward dynamics that can ensue when partners aren't aligned in their levels of happiness or sadness on any given day, week or month. What, exactly, is your level of "responsibility" and what isn't? How can this be approached with kindness and sensitivity?

What does it really take to build a relationship that lasts? LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life doesn’t offer quick fixes or fairy tales. Instead, therapists Jerry Sander and Kristy Gaisford bring a grounded, practical perspective to the complexities of intimacy, drawn from their own lived experiences. Both have navigated marriage, divorce, and then found fulfilling second marriages, and they openly discuss the realities of blending families-Kristy, for instance, helps parent four step-children alongside her own four. This isn't abstract theory; it's wisdom forged in the trenches of real life. In each episode, they explore the nuanced skills required for connection, from communication and conflict to vulnerability and joy. You’ll hear candid conversations that honor both the struggles and the profound rewards of committed partnership. Their professional expertise as licensed clinical social workers merges with personal honesty, creating a space that feels both informative and deeply relatable. This podcast is for anyone who believes relationships require effort but doesn’t want to lose the heart in the hard work. Tune in for honest dialogue that might just change how you show up for the people you love.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 81

LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life
Podcast Episodes
Why A Boot Camp Is For You [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 31:14
Send us Fan Mail Jerry & Kristy talk about the weekend Relationship Boot Camps we run and ask the question: Why should you pay attention to THIS workshop? What's in it for you? And...your relationship? Visit https://love…
Be Right or Be Happy [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 45:42
Send us Fan Mail Jerry & Kristy take a deep dive into one of the most notable of losing strategies that couples regularly deploy: Being Right. Where does this come from? Why do we keep doing it when it fails over and ove…
My Divorce Story (Hers) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 47:57
Send us Fan Mail Kristy talks about her divorce, looking back at some key elements of the past that were believed to be true at the time, but needed to change. The influence of family-of-origin, inherited beliefs about h…
My Divorce Story (His) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:04
Send us Fan Mail Jerry talks about his divorce, looking back at some key elements of the past that were believed to be true at the time, but needed to change. The influence of family-of-origin, inherited beliefs about ho…
When Is A Relationship Over? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 41:12
Send us Fan Mail Kristy & Jerry discuss those pivotal, painful questions that come when you look, with clarity, at what you've got going on your relationship, right now, today. Are there any signs it is getting better? D…
Dancing In The Dark [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:41
Send us Fan Mail Jerry and Kristy discuss the dance(s) couples do with little awareness, almost on auto-pilot, leading to general dissatisfaction for both. Alternatives are considered.
Acting [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:10
Send us Fan Mail Kristy & Jerry discuss the art of acting-in-relationships, and the toll this takes. Careful distinction is made between resisting the temptation to overshare and vent (in boundaryless fashion) and the ab…
Relationship Myths [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 19:58
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry dissect a few of the relationship myths we grew up believing and consider some healthier alternatives. For more info re: the Boot Camps we offer, and our services in general, please visi…
Mind Reading & Faulty Radar [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:53
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry discuss a few of the most traditional destined-to-fail strategies couples often employ and suggest some different approaches.
Great Expectations [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 28:06
Send us Fan Mail In which the two of us consider the beautiful beginning phase of relationships and the rose-colored glasses that usually accompany it. Do you remember walking with your feet several inches off the ground…