Biting The Bullet

Biting The Bullet

Author: Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW November 21, 2022 Duration: 40:29
Send us Fan Mail You know the feeling; that moment when your spouse asks you to do something that you absolutely, honestly DON'T want to do. But they enjoy it. What do you do? Radical honesty in the direction of "taking care of myself"? Or....aren't there just times where you have to "bite the bullet" and "take one for the team"? And how is this different from co-dependency, or becoming a doormat? Jerry & Kristy consider this.

What does it really take to build a relationship that lasts? LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life doesn’t offer quick fixes or fairy tales. Instead, therapists Jerry Sander and Kristy Gaisford bring a grounded, practical perspective to the complexities of intimacy, drawn from their own lived experiences. Both have navigated marriage, divorce, and then found fulfilling second marriages, and they openly discuss the realities of blending families-Kristy, for instance, helps parent four step-children alongside her own four. This isn't abstract theory; it's wisdom forged in the trenches of real life. In each episode, they explore the nuanced skills required for connection, from communication and conflict to vulnerability and joy. You’ll hear candid conversations that honor both the struggles and the profound rewards of committed partnership. Their professional expertise as licensed clinical social workers merges with personal honesty, creating a space that feels both informative and deeply relatable. This podcast is for anyone who believes relationships require effort but doesn’t want to lose the heart in the hard work. Tune in for honest dialogue that might just change how you show up for the people you love.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 81

LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life
Podcast Episodes
Patriarchy In Our Relationships [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 42:01
Send us Fan Mail Jerry and Kristy consider the thorny impact of worldwide patriarchy on the way we function in our relationships. Alternative models are considered, as well as an understanding of how the status-quo we we…
Everything Breaks; Most Gets Fixed [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:52
Send us Fan Mail You know the feeling when you just want to throw things away? When one too many things have occurred and you would just love to get rid of things (or your partner?) instead of working to fix them? Jerry…
Ego [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:53
Send us Fan Mail What role does our ego play in helping, or hindering, connection with our partner? Kristy & Jerry unpack some of this together. Jerry reports some about his travel to Southern India and how long it took…
What If Your Partner Doesn't Want To Do "The Work"? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:31
Send us Fan Mail It's more rare than we would like that both partners in a couple approach "the work" of behavioral change with the same intensity, at the same rate, and in the same way. What happens if one person is muc…
I Am DONE!!! [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:40
Send us Fan Mail Memorable, highly-charged words and phrases are frequently heard in couples' therapists' offices. What they mean -- how they are understood between people who claim to love each other -- is often highly…
The Selfishness of Addiction [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:46
Send us Fan Mail An addict's path to recovery necessarily involves making amends and becoming more relational to the people around you whom you've wounded. But often people get caught at the "dry-drunk" phase, don't do t…
The Challenge of Blended Families [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:44
Send us Fan Mail It's not always The Brady Bunch. In fact, it almost never is. Kristy and Jerry explore some of the dynamics at work for members of blended families and try to "right-size" expectations to maximize opport…
The Holidays [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:14
Send us Fan Mail Ahhhh...The Holidays. They are already here, and we are already scrambling to try to extract the maximum amount of family happiness and connection from situations that can also offer confusion, old, unre…
Gratitude [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:01
Send us Fan Mail Jerry and Kristy express their gratitude for the people, places and things in their lives, with a particular focus on their respective relationships. Being able to extract, and express, gratitude for tha…
Trauma & Your Relationship [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:02
Send us Fan Mail Whether it is childhood trauma(s), the effects of societal prejudices, discrimination and stigmatizing or more recent adult losses of a traumatic nature, the ripple effects of trauma is shared with our p…