I Am DONE!!!

I Am DONE!!!

Author: Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW February 2, 2024 Duration: 36:40
Send us Fan Mail Memorable, highly-charged words and phrases are frequently heard in couples' therapists' offices. What they mean -- how they are understood between people who claim to love each other -- is often highly debatable and unclear. Jerry and Kristy try to translate some meanings in today's episode.

What does it really take to build a relationship that lasts? LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life doesn’t offer quick fixes or fairy tales. Instead, therapists Jerry Sander and Kristy Gaisford bring a grounded, practical perspective to the complexities of intimacy, drawn from their own lived experiences. Both have navigated marriage, divorce, and then found fulfilling second marriages, and they openly discuss the realities of blending families-Kristy, for instance, helps parent four step-children alongside her own four. This isn't abstract theory; it's wisdom forged in the trenches of real life. In each episode, they explore the nuanced skills required for connection, from communication and conflict to vulnerability and joy. You’ll hear candid conversations that honor both the struggles and the profound rewards of committed partnership. Their professional expertise as licensed clinical social workers merges with personal honesty, creating a space that feels both informative and deeply relatable. This podcast is for anyone who believes relationships require effort but doesn’t want to lose the heart in the hard work. Tune in for honest dialogue that might just change how you show up for the people you love.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 81

LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life
Podcast Episodes
All (S)He Wants Is Sex [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:21
Send us Fan Mail A frequently heard complaint in couples' sessions is deconstructed and discussed. Are there any bad people here, or are two people seeking to be seen and valued in different ways when there is an obvious…
Does Your Attachment Style Sabotage You? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:33
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry discuss lasting styles of attachment and the difficulties these can pose for our partners. (And ourselves!) And...it somehow all makes sense. Can this be worked on with health in a relat…
Home Is Where We Fall Apart [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:06
Send us Fan Mail The intimate connections offered by our home life can go either way: towards snippy, isolated/isolating, defensive interactions or towards ever-greater connectedness and satisfactions. Jerry and Kristy c…
Do Words Even Matter? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 47:37
Send us Fan Mail Jerry & Kristy consider the dual nature of words, as they are used in relationships. On the one hand they matter very much -- as they can be source of great pain or comfort. On the other hand some of the…
Catastrophizing [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 44:09
Send us Fan Mail The fine (self-defeating) art of making small disappointments, disagreements and conflicts into major demonstrations of disastrous proportions is discussed by Kristy and Jerry. Alternatives are considere…
Body Image & Your Relationship [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:38
Send us Fan Mail Jerry and Kristy explore the shaping of our self-esteem -- and the impact on later relationships -- that occurs related to our own body image issues. The impact of early family influences, societal messa…
Relationship Reckoning [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:10
Send us Fan Mail How can you go about figuring if a relationship is really over? Whether you'd be happier without it? Kristy and Jerry discuss the intricacies of deciding when separating and ending a relationship is the…
When Your Partner Leaves [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:48
Send us Fan Mail Jerry and Kristy consider all the variations in "leaving" and the repercussions for the relationship. Healthy alternatives for taking space are considered. As usual, we have a fight at the end and show a…
Faith Transitions [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:24
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry discuss the challenges and opportunities that exist when one member of a couple goes through changes about their religious beliefs (and practices). Does it always have to be a deal-break…
Self Esteem: A Deep Dive [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:03
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry take a deeper look at how self-esteem (yours!) remains at the core of a relationship's chances for success. The futility of trying to change your partner while not feeling good enough ab…