My Divorce Story (His)

My Divorce Story (His)

Author: Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW July 12, 2021 Duration: 51:04
Send us Fan Mail Jerry talks about his divorce, looking back at some key elements of the past that were believed to be true at the time, but needed to change. The influence of family-of-origin, inherited beliefs about how a man is supposed to be in a marriage, habit and fears are considered. The disequilibrium of the first year of divorce is explored, along with a path towards healing identified and discussed. The joy of a new relationship -- and new marriage -- is considered, along with how ...

What does it really take to build a relationship that lasts? LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life doesn’t offer quick fixes or fairy tales. Instead, therapists Jerry Sander and Kristy Gaisford bring a grounded, practical perspective to the complexities of intimacy, drawn from their own lived experiences. Both have navigated marriage, divorce, and then found fulfilling second marriages, and they openly discuss the realities of blending families-Kristy, for instance, helps parent four step-children alongside her own four. This isn't abstract theory; it's wisdom forged in the trenches of real life. In each episode, they explore the nuanced skills required for connection, from communication and conflict to vulnerability and joy. You’ll hear candid conversations that honor both the struggles and the profound rewards of committed partnership. Their professional expertise as licensed clinical social workers merges with personal honesty, creating a space that feels both informative and deeply relatable. This podcast is for anyone who believes relationships require effort but doesn’t want to lose the heart in the hard work. Tune in for honest dialogue that might just change how you show up for the people you love.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 81

LoveWork: Skills for a Relational Life
Podcast Episodes
Self Esteem: A Deep Dive [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:03
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry take a deeper look at how self-esteem (yours!) remains at the core of a relationship's chances for success. The futility of trying to change your partner while not feeling good enough ab…
Is Your Partner a Narcissist? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:55
Send us Fan Mail Is your partner a narcissist? And what are the implications if the answer is "Yes"? Is this term over-used, or under-recognized? What possibilities realistically exist for someone who is in a relationshi…
Biting The Bullet [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:29
Send us Fan Mail You know the feeling; that moment when your spouse asks you to do something that you absolutely, honestly DON'T want to do. But they enjoy it. What do you do? Radical honesty in the direction of "taking…
After The Affair [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 49:20
Send us Fan Mail What happens, for a couple, after one partner has had an affair and it is now out in the open? What are the best things you can do (and the worst ones)? How long is the healing process? Is it really true…
Breadwinning [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 49:23
Send us Fan Mail Talking about money -- and how it affects your relationship -- is one of the hardest things for a couple to do. Without even knowing that we are responding to our family of origin's stories and values we…
When I Need You The Most, You Disappear [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 47:42
Send us Fan Mail Kristy and Jerry explore some of the most challenging types of disconnected moments between couples. How comfortable are men with crying, or big expressions of emotion? Do men run and duck, looking for c…
Me Versus Us [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 44:13
Send us Fan Mail We all want time to ourselves. But what about when that seems to conflict directly with connecting relationally to the significant others around us? What then??? Are there ways of maintaining healthy con…
When Politics Rips Couples Apart [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:23
Send us Fan Mail Jerry & Kristy discuss the growing trend of angry politics ripping couples apart and testing their relationships as the media around them continue to provoke people to ever-rising levels of division. Alt…
The One Thing... [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 42:46
Send us Fan Mail Jerry & Kristy ponder the ONE THING we'd love you to MOST GET in the realm of couples' therapy. And -- in preparation for a few weeks off at the end of August -- we have two excellent fake fights and dem…
What (Some) Women Say in Therapy [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:23
Send us Fan Mail In our follow-up episode Kristy and Jerry consider what we often here from women in sessions regarding being in a couple/marriage/parenting arrangement. We conclude with a seemingly spontaneous -- and an…