The Hidden Cost of Always "Holding It Together" | Why Being Strong is Exhausting #172

The Hidden Cost of Always "Holding It Together" | Why Being Strong is Exhausting #172

Author: Sarah Dawkins - Root Cause Healing, Adaptations & Natural Holistic Health Coach May 7, 2026 Duration: 8:30

In this episode of Mind Body Medicine for Self Healers, we dive into a topic that isn’t discussed nearly enough: the immense internal toll of being "the strong one".


On the outside, you look reliable and composed, but underneath, the effort to keep going, no matter what, is becoming physically and emotionally exhausting.


We explore:

The "hidden cost" of maintaining a perfect exterior while feeling depleted inside.

Why the pressure to be the reliable one is a silent contributor to chronic stress.

How to start acknowledging the weight of "holding it together" so you can begin to truly heal.


If you’re the woman everyone else leans on, this conversation is for you.


It’s time to name the exhaustion and look at what it’s actually costing your body and mind.


Key Information and time stamps


00:50 The Appearance of "Handling It" : Sarah discusses how women often look like they have everything under control on the outside, even when they are internally exhausted.


01:08 What "Holding It Together" Looks Like : This pattern often manifests as being the person everyone relies on and pushing through tasks even when the body is asking to stop.


01:50 The Problem with "Functioning" : Sarah shares her personal experience of not realizing how much she was carrying because she was still able to cope and do what needed to be done.


02:52 The "Wired but Tired" Cost : Constant internal holding can lead to low-level exhaustion and a body that never feels fully at ease or able to relax.


04:15 Why Resting Feels Unsafe : For those used to being alert and in control, letting go can actually feel uncomfortable or unsafe rather than relieving.


05:30 The Power of Awareness : Shifting the pattern begins with getting curious about what you are holding and using awareness to soften the automatic response.


Listen now to start unburdening yourself.


Who am I?


Sarah Dawkins is a passionate Holistic Health and Healing Coach, international speaker and author of Heal Yourself. She’s also a multi-award-winning entrepreneur and the award-winning host of the uplifting podcast Mind Body Medicine for Self Healers with Sarah Dawkins.


With over 20 years’ experience as a Registered Nurse, Sarah combines her deep understanding of conventional medicine with her own powerful self-healing journey to create a truly integrative approach. Having overcome multiple chronic health challenges herself, she now supports others in uncovering and addressing the root causes of their symptoms, helping them restore balance, reclaim their energy and create lasting, vibrant wellness.


www.sarahdawkins.com


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Hosted by integrative health practitioner Sarah Dawkins, Mind Body Medicine for Self Healers is for anyone who senses there's more to their wellbeing than standard diagnoses and treatments. This podcast digs into the often-overlooked connections between our emotional histories, nervous system states, and physical health. Rather than offering another set of tips for managing symptoms, conversations here explore how unresolved trauma can manifest as chronic pain, what true nervous system regulation feels like, and practical ways to engage the body's own wisdom for healing. You'll find a focus on somatic practices and the underlying principles of natural recovery, all aimed at moving past simply coping and towards reclaiming a genuine sense of vitality. It’s a space for those ready to look deeper, questioning the root causes of imbalance and discovering a more integrated path to lasting wellness. Each episode builds on the idea that you are not just a patient to be managed, but an active participant in your own healing journey. Tune in for thoughtful, grounded discussions that bridge the gap between mind and body, offering a compassionate and insightful companion for your personal health exploration.
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