Do you pour out gratitude for everyone else, but forget to include yourself?
As the holidays approach, gratitude can start to feel like a performance. In this soulful solo episode, Heather helps you reclaim it, starting with the most overlooked person in your life: you.
- Learn how thanking yourself rewires your brain and soothes your nervous system
- Understand why authentic gratitude embraces both joy and grief
- Try a 3-minute practice to anchor appreciation in your body not just your mind
- Reframe self-directed gratitude as strength, not selfishness
Listen now to remember why you belong on your own gratitude list and how to gently come back to yourself, one breath at a time.
Key Takeaways
- Most gratitude practices leave you out of the equation
- Self-gratitude is not arrogance, it’s acknowledgment
- Gratitude is most powerful in complex emotional landscapes, not perfect ones
- Self-directed appreciation calms the nervous system and supports resilience
- A gentle daily ritual can anchor gratitude into your body, not just your thoughts
- “Gratitude and grief can coexist” and often must, especially during the holidays
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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection.
For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.
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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.
Resource Spotlight
1. UC Davis Gratitude Research (Emmons & McCullough, 2003)
The foundational study demonstrates that regular gratitude practice increases optimism, improves sleep, and enhances overall well-being.
2. Harvard Health Review (2022) – “Giving Thanks Can Make You Happier”
Outlines how self-directed gratitude — including compassion toward oneself — amplifies emotional regulation and resilience.
3. Greater Good Science Center – Gratitude Articles & Practices
A collection of short, accessible research-based tools for cultivating both interpersonal and self-directed gratitude. (greatergood.berkeley.edu)
4. Book: Living in Gratitude by Angeles Arrien
An elegant, spiritual framework for understanding gratitude not as a ritual, but as a lifelong practice.
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