E214: Parenting Lessons from Bad Bosses: When Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) affects our Parenting and Partners

E214: Parenting Lessons from Bad Bosses: When Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) affects our Parenting and Partners

Author: Patricia Sung | ADHD Coach for Moms with ADHD November 9, 2023 Duration: 24:23

What's your story of working under an unqualified or unsupportive boss? I'm sharing a few of my terrible boss experiences. 

But today's episode is not just about the bad bosses in the workplace. As a parent, we often feel underqualified. You don't want to be a "bad boss", but no one handed you an instruction manual when your children arrived! 

What do you do when you don't know what to do?

When you don't feel sure of your choices, it starts to seep into your confidence level. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) shows up to make you doubt your parenting decisions, increasing the guilt around what you should have done, and layering in the shame on how you're ruining your kids forever with your mess ups.Yikes!

RSD also taints how we relate to our partners, which can stir up the same conflict over and over again. It influences how we react to the slightest eyebrow raise and every "what if" scenario. It makes you scared to bring up important conversations. 

Knowing it's not just you is half the battle. Let's dive into how we can better support and care for our families and partners, by starting with ourselves.

 

Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm

 

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:  https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-214-parenting-lessons-from-bad-bosses-when-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-rsd-affects-parenting-partners 

 

When you know how to stay calm, your child's meltdown over leaving the holiday party won't ruin your day. You can respond firmly and lovingly because you're in control of your emotions.

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The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now so you'll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.

You'll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you'll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.

 

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Ever feel like you're running a marathon with no finish line in sight, while everyone else seems to be on a leisurely stroll? That mental clutter, the constant search for your keys, the guilt over forgotten appointments-it's not a personal failing. It's often the lived experience of motherhood when you're also navigating adult ADHD. Motherhood in ADHD is a space created specifically for that reality. Hosted by Patricia Sung, an ADHD coach who gets it because she lives it, this podcast digs into the intersection of a neurodivergent brain and the demands of raising a family. You'll find conversations that move beyond simple tips, offering brain-based science and practical strategies tailored for moms whose minds work differently. Episodes explore how to structure your days in a way that works with your ADHD, not against it, and rethink parenting approaches to reduce overwhelm for both you and your kids. It’s about education that leads to self-compassion, replacing shame with understanding. Tune in for honest talk about productivity that actually sticks, managing mental health, and building systems that acknowledge your unique wiring. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a companion for redefining what success looks like in your home and in your mind, helping you move from barely coping to truly thriving.
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