E266: No Perfect Plan: Letting Good Enough Be Good Enough

E266: No Perfect Plan: Letting Good Enough Be Good Enough

Author: Patricia Sung | ADHD Coach for Moms with ADHD May 29, 2025 Duration: 35:24

But I want to do everything... well.

Ever find yourself trying so hard to get it just right…  only to realize that you're missing the whole point?!? This week, I'm sharing some very real behind-the-scenes of my life right now: juggling the end-of-school chaos, trying to write a book I've dreamed about for years, and realizing (once again) that perfectionism is still sneaking into the driver's seat.

In this vulnerable episode, I unpack the mental load of ADHD motherhood when the "busy" becomes relentless. I talk about asking for help (even when it feels bougie), redefining what "good enough" looks like, and letting go of the fantasy plan I had in my head. You'll hear about my new sourdough hobby adventures, the emotional labor of summer transitions, and how I'm learning to hold my goals a little more loosely.

Plus, I share what I'm learning from my work with Dr. Sandra Kooij's team on rewording ADHD diagnostic tools for women to encompass a more realistic and relatable view, plus how that work is shaping the way I understand myself and my capacity.

This isn't a "wrap it in a bow" kind of episode. It's messy, real, and honest. If you've been quietly wondering, "Why can't I do it all?", this episode is your reminder that you were never meant to.

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:  https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-266-no-perfect-plan-letting-good-enough-be-good-enough

Links mentioned in this episode:

Episode 71 referencing Dr. Sandra Kooij's work: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/071-executive-function-adhd-energy-regulation

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Ever feel like you're running a marathon with no finish line in sight, while everyone else seems to be on a leisurely stroll? That mental clutter, the constant search for your keys, the guilt over forgotten appointments-it's not a personal failing. It's often the lived experience of motherhood when you're also navigating adult ADHD. Motherhood in ADHD is a space created specifically for that reality. Hosted by Patricia Sung, an ADHD coach who gets it because she lives it, this podcast digs into the intersection of a neurodivergent brain and the demands of raising a family. You'll find conversations that move beyond simple tips, offering brain-based science and practical strategies tailored for moms whose minds work differently. Episodes explore how to structure your days in a way that works with your ADHD, not against it, and rethink parenting approaches to reduce overwhelm for both you and your kids. It’s about education that leads to self-compassion, replacing shame with understanding. Tune in for honest talk about productivity that actually sticks, managing mental health, and building systems that acknowledge your unique wiring. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a companion for redefining what success looks like in your home and in your mind, helping you move from barely coping to truly thriving.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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