Ep. 431: The Cost of Always Putting Yourself Last

Ep. 431: The Cost of Always Putting Yourself Last

Author: JJ Flizanes January 20, 2026 Duration: 17:31

In this solo episode, JJ explores a pattern she sees repeatedly in women who are deeply caring, self-aware, and ready for healing—yet hesitate when it's time to invest in themselves.

Drawing from real conversations with women who are caregivers, over-givers, people-pleasers, and survivors of illness, JJ unpacks the deeper truth beneath statements like "I can't afford it." This episode isn't about money—it's about self-worth, nervous system safety, and the beliefs that quietly keep women putting themselves last.

Through the energetic lens of the Year of the Snake and the approaching Fire Horse, JJ explains how awareness alone isn't enough. Healing often requires an embodied choice—a stretch that tells your nervous system, I am worth being supported.

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Why women so often deprioritize their own healing and well-being

  • How abandonment wounds, caregiving roles, and people-pleasing show up around money

  • What not investing in yourself communicates to your body and subconscious

  • Why aligned investment can be a powerful act of re-patterning and self-trust

  • How choosing yourself builds confidence, self-love, and emotional resilience


This episode is an invitation to value yourself differently in 2026—not by doing more, but by believing you're worthy of support, healing, and expansion.

✨ If you've been feeling the call to invest in yourself but something keeps stopping you, this conversation may help you understand why—and what's possible on the other side of that choice.

If you're ready to break this pattern, let's chat http://jjflizanes.com/apply


Best selling author and empowerment strategist JJ Flizanes hosts Nutrition & Alternative Medicine, a space where the often rigid lines between conventional health advice and holistic practices begin to blur. Here, the conversation moves beyond simple diet plans to explore the interconnected systems of the body, with a particular focus on functional medicine and gut health as foundational elements. Each episode is built on the idea that true wellness requires looking at the whole person-physical, mental, and environmental. You’ll hear discussions that dive into the practicalities of gluten-free or paleo living, not as fleeting trends, but as potential tools for healing. The dialogue extends to the principles of acupuncture, Chinese medicine, and homeopathy, examining how these ancient and alternative modalities can complement modern approaches to issues like hormone balance, sustainable weight management, and chronic fatigue. This isn't just about information; it's about translating that knowledge into actionable strategies for your own life. The podcast serves as a resource for anyone feeling overwhelmed by conflicting health messages, offering clarity and inspiration on everything from the food on your plate to the energy in your living space. Tune in for thoughtful explorations that empower you to take an active, informed role in your own well-being journey, discovering how alternative paths and nutritional wisdom can work together to foster lasting health.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

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