Ep. #279. Shoulding on People, and Shoulding on yourself

Ep. #279. Shoulding on People, and Shoulding on yourself

Author: Mark Meincke January 25, 2023 Duration: 15:35

When correcting others, try not to spray should all over them.  

Shoulding always comes from a place of critical judgment, and not from understanding, respect, and compassion. Shoulding can damage self esteem, create a toxic environment, damage morale, reduce productivity, increase sick-days, and increase employee turnover. 

If you replace shoulding with active listening, respect, and compassion, your world will change.  Compliance will increase, relationships will be optimal, stress will lower, and everyone will benefit. 

This skill is helpful in everyone's life. 

Thank you to my good friend Aaron Butt for inspiring me to put this together. 

Please comment, and provide feedback on what you hear in this episode.  I want to hear from you.  Your voice matters. 


Hosted by Mark Meincke, Operation Tango Romeo, the Trauma Recovery Podcast creates a vital space for those who have served in the military, veterans, first responders, and their families. The journey through PTSD and trauma recovery is undeniably difficult, and this series is built on the understanding that it cannot be walked in isolation. Instead of clinical jargon, you’ll hear real, unscripted conversations and personal stories from people who genuinely understand the terrain. There’s a unique power in listening to others who have been there, finding echoes of your own experience in their words, and that shared recognition becomes a form of peer support in itself. This podcast functions as a companion, reinforcing that you are not alone, which in itself is a profound step toward healing. Each episode aims to provide not just insight, but a sense of connection and practical solidarity. Tuning into this podcast means joining a community focused on resilience and recovery, where honest dialogue about the challenges and triumphs of trauma takes center stage. Mark guides these essential conversations, ensuring the content remains grounded and directly relevant to those who need it most.
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