237. The Bristle Reaction & Rejection in Relationships with Vanessa & Xander Marin

237. The Bristle Reaction & Rejection in Relationships with Vanessa & Xander Marin

Author: Rachel Maine August 25, 2025 Duration: 51:16
Hey, hey! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I can hardly believe I get to say this, but today’s guests are none other than Vanessa and Xander Marin! Vanessa is a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience, Xander is the self-proclaimed “regular dude” by her side, and together they’ve built this amazing platform of relatable, hilarious, and truly practical advice for couples. Their book Sex Talks is a New York Times bestseller, their Instagram videos live in my saved fol...

Rachel Maine has spent years working as a sex coach and educator, and her work centers on a single, powerful idea: pleasure is a personal compass. In her Owning Your Sexual Self podcast, she translates that one-on-one guidance into candid conversations meant to dismantle shame and spark curiosity. This isn't a sterile lecture series; it's a lively, often hilarious, and consistently frank exploration of what it means to fully inhabit your body and desires. Episodes delve into the practicalities of sexual health and wellness, but also touch on the entrepreneurial and personal growth aspects of building a confident intimate life. You'll hear discussions that range from the physiological to the psychological, all filtered through a sex-positive perspective that celebrates individual experience. Rachel believes that understanding and claiming what brings you joy is a foundational form of self-improvement, as crucial as any fitness or business goal. So, expect real talk, the occasional swear word, and a refreshing lack of judgment. Tuning into this podcast is like getting thoughtful, actionable advice from a knowledgeable friend who isn't afraid to laugh at the absurdities along the way. It's about moving from uncertainty or silence into a place of informed, empowered choice.
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Duration: 38:40
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Duration: 38:14
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Duration: 9:42
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