Asking for What You Want with Emer Brady

Asking for What You Want with Emer Brady

Author: Danusia Malina-Derben January 18, 2025 Duration: 14:20

Why is asking for what we want so hard? In this episode, host Danusia Malina-Derben gets into this question with guest Emer Brady, exploring the barriers many women face when advocating for themselves. From the subtleties of language to the power of body language, this conversation is packed with practical tips for anyone looking to show up stronger—especially in the workplace.

You'll hear why apologetic language holds us back, how to communicate assertively without losing authenticity, and the importance of preparation before asking for what you need. Plus, there's a fascinating discussion on the role of cultural dynamics in how requests are received and why understanding your audience matters as much as knowing what you want.

One standout insight? Advocacy isn't just about the ask—it's about planting seeds, listening actively, and learning from those who've mastered the skill. With actionable tips like video-recording yourself to refine your delivery or observing how others successfully navigate workplace dynamics, this episode is a practical guide for turning self-doubt into self-confidence.

If you've ever hesitated to speak up or worried about being seen as "too much," this episode will leave you with tools to start making your voice heard. A must-listen for anyone ready to reframe their mindset and take action.

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Credits:

• Hosted by Danusia Malina-Derben

• Edited, Mixed + Mastered by Marie Kruz

• Cover art by Anthony Oram


Danusia Malina-Derben hosts Parents Who Think, a podcast built on the premise that thoughtful disagreement is more valuable than easy consensus. As an entrepreneur, author, and mother of ten, she facilitates candid conversations that deliberately challenge the comfortable assumptions and unspoken rules of modern parenthood. Each episode features intelligent parents from a wide spectrum of backgrounds, engaging in no-holds-barred debates on crucial dilemmas. The discussions are raw and unfiltered, offering listeners a range of perspectives that often exist outside mainstream parenting narratives. This isn't about finding a single right answer but about illuminating the complex, often hard realities of raising children. Whether your own views are conventional or more marginalized, this podcast provides a rare space for genuine intellectual friction. You'll hear nuanced arguments that prioritize thinking over dogma, inviting you to examine your own choices more deeply. The goal is clarity, not comfort, making it an essential listen for anyone who believes parenting deserves more than a recycled script. Tune in for conversations that interrupt the status quo, acknowledging that agreement is not the point-rigorous, compassionate thought is.
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