Can Detachment and Love Coexist? A story about the stoic parent

Can Detachment and Love Coexist? A story about the stoic parent

Author: Danusia Malina-Derben October 12, 2024 Duration: 12:36

In this episode of Parents Who Think, host Danusia Malina-Derben explores Stoicism and its relevance to parenting. Drawing on her experience as a mother to 10 children, she reflects on how Stoic principles like control, patience, and detachment have shaped her approach to raising kids. But it's not just about personal resilience ~ Danusia also gets into the limits of Stoicism, especially when it comes to addressing the broader systemic challenges that families face.

 

Through thoughtful reflections, she balances Stoic ideas with insights from feminist and care ethicists like bell hooks, Audre Lorde, and Carol Gilligan, showing that emotional engagement and systemic awareness are essential in parenting.

 

This episode challenges listeners to consider how they can raise resilient children while also recognising and addressing the societal pressures their children face.

 

Tune in for a thought-provoking exploration of Stoicism, love, and the complexities of modern parenting.

 

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Credits:

• Hosted by Danusia Malina-Derben

• Edited, Mixed + Mastered by Marie Kruz

• Cover art by Anthony Oram


Danusia Malina-Derben hosts Parents Who Think, a podcast built on the premise that thoughtful disagreement is more valuable than easy consensus. As an entrepreneur, author, and mother of ten, she facilitates candid conversations that deliberately challenge the comfortable assumptions and unspoken rules of modern parenthood. Each episode features intelligent parents from a wide spectrum of backgrounds, engaging in no-holds-barred debates on crucial dilemmas. The discussions are raw and unfiltered, offering listeners a range of perspectives that often exist outside mainstream parenting narratives. This isn't about finding a single right answer but about illuminating the complex, often hard realities of raising children. Whether your own views are conventional or more marginalized, this podcast provides a rare space for genuine intellectual friction. You'll hear nuanced arguments that prioritize thinking over dogma, inviting you to examine your own choices more deeply. The goal is clarity, not comfort, making it an essential listen for anyone who believes parenting deserves more than a recycled script. Tune in for conversations that interrupt the status quo, acknowledging that agreement is not the point-rigorous, compassionate thought is.
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