Are You Over-Functioning and Holding Your Child Back?

Are You Over-Functioning and Holding Your Child Back?

Author: Michelle Kenney, M. Ed April 3, 2025 Duration: 10:56

Are parents doing too much for their kids? What if saying "no" to doing something for your child could actually empower them to thrive independently? Today, we dive into the art of stepping back as a parent and explore the practice of avoiding over-functioning.


Today, I delve into the nuanced subject of over-functioning in our parenting journeys. I share my own experience with my daughter Esme, who is learning to navigate the complex world of adulthood. As I recount our recent encounter over her request for help obtaining her driver's license, I reflect on the importance of fostering independence while providing a supportive environment.


When we find ourselves taking on tasks that our children could handle independently, it's natural to wonder about the subtle messages we might be conveying. Could our well-intentioned actions inadvertently hinder their growth? This discussion invites us to gently reflect on the potential long-term effects of over-functioning, with the heartfelt hope of nurturing children who emerge as self-sufficient and confident individuals, ready to face life's challenges with resilience.


In This Episode

👉 Defining over-functioning in parenting roles

👉 Encouraging autonomy with empathy and support

👉 Unpacking the impact on self-esteem

👉 Maria Montessori's lesson on child independence

👉 Strategies for nurturing self-reliant kids


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You know the principles of gentle parenting and value attachment, but the day-to-day reality of raising kids can leave those ideals feeling just out of reach. If you’re exhausted by cycles of yelling, shame, and frustration, and you’re searching for a practical, grounded alternative that still provides clear boundaries, you’ve found a thoughtful space to explore. Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments is hosted by Michelle Kenney, M. Ed, who brings her perspective as a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, and a mom of two teenagers. She also openly shares her own journey as a recovering yeller, making her guidance deeply empathetic and real. In this podcast, Michelle moves beyond theory to discuss the actual application of peaceful parenting. Conversations focus on dismantling the urge to punish and replacing it with connection-based strategies that actually work during tough moments. You’ll hear honest discussions about setting limits with respect, navigating emotional outbursts (both yours and your child’s), and fostering a home environment rooted in cooperation rather than control. Each episode aims to provide actionable insights that help you build a calmer, more respectful family dynamic, one conversation at a time. It’s a resource for anyone ready to parent in a way that feels better, honors the relationship, and genuinely moves away from punitive measures.
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