Case Study: The Secret to Connecting With Your Neurodivergent Child [Fan Favorite]

Case Study: The Secret to Connecting With Your Neurodivergent Child [Fan Favorite]

Author: Michelle Kenney, M. Ed June 17, 2025 Duration: 19:38

Have you been told that because your child is neurodivergent, they need different rules? That connection-based parenting works for neurotypical kids, but your child with autism or ADHD requires charts, rewards, and consequences to manage behavior. Many of us hear this, leaving us to choose between a behavioral or relationship-based approach.


In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Eloise, one of our private clients, whose son has autism and ADHD. She came to us wondering if this work would even apply to her family. She had tried the visual charts and rewards and found they made no difference in her son’s intense anxiety. Eloise shares her incredible story of how she was advised to “just do the connection”. She discovered that play was the key that truly helped her son. It filled his cup, calmed his anxiety about leaving the house, and allowed him to think better.


This conversation is a crucial reminder that our neurodiverse kids don’t need to be managed; they, more than anyone, need to be connected with. If you are parenting a neurodivergent child, this episode is a must-listen. It will fill you with so much hope and reaffirm that your relationship is the most powerful tool you have. I know you’ll find so much hope and validation in Eloise’s story.


In This Episode, We Cover:

👉 Why connection is essential for neurodiverse families

👉 Swapping sticker charts for playful connection

👉 Using play to calm anxiety in autistic children

👉 How a mother’s own neurodivergent diagnosis helped

👉 Parenting when you are also autistic with ADHD

👉 Moving beyond traditional behavioral management


As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.

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